The Butch Caucus

Formal Friday

2010-11-05T21:37:00.000-04:00

Fridays have officially gone formal at FineAndDandyShop.com. In our opinion the world has gone too casual from a style perspective. This is our anti-casual Friday. So each week we encourage you to get dressed up, encourage your co-workers to do the same, and send us a photo and tell us something about yourself.

Andrew in his sweater formal:

Stephen and Bradley celebrating Formal Friday at work at Toronto's Crate & Barrel:

New Zealand tailor Glen in his self-made vest:

Formal Friday favorite Michael:

Ariel in his Brooklyn rainy day formal:

John of California:

FineAndDandyShop.com shopkeeper, Matt:

Jason of Bow Tie Friday:

Enrique sporting his new FineAndDandyShop.com wool bow tie:

Harlem Renaissance: Gladys Bentley

2010-10-25T18:51:00.001-04:00

GLADYS BENTLEY –
The World’s Greatest Sepia Piano Artist!

In the 1920s Harlem was an open and accepting place for gays and lesbians. African-American historian Henry Louis Gates has described the Harlem Renaissance as being “surely as gay as it was black, not that it was exclusively either of these.” Black gays and lesbians, described in Harlem vernacular as being “in the life,” provided entertainment in the form of private parties, sometimes fund raisers, and sometimes private erotic events. In addition to the clubs of Harlem, private rent parties became a place where gays and lesbians could dance and socialize without fear of being arrested. Rent parties were private parties that people threw in their apartments to raise rent. Rent parties became places for gays and lesbians to mingle in relative safety.

Enter Gladys Bentley. Born in 1907 the Philadelphia native left home at 16 for New York. For Gladys, her lesbianism made her need to strike out on her own all the more urgent. As she would recall many years later in an Ebony Magazine Article, "It seems I was born different. At least, I always thought so....From the time I can remember anything ,even as I was toddling , I never wanted a man to touch me...Soon I began to feel more comfortable in boys clothes than in dresses".

She began her career singing and playing piano at rent parties and the legendary speakeasies of "Jungle Alley" at 133 between Lenox and Seventh Avenue. She appeared at Harry Hansberry's "Clam House" on 133rd Street, one of New York City's most notorious gay speakeasies, in the 1920s, and headlined in the early thirties at Harlem's Ubangi Club, where she was backed up by a chorus line of drag queens. She attracted gay, straight, black and white audiences.

What I love about her the most is she was a BUTCH lesbian. Bentley dressed in her trademark tuxedo and top hat. She flaunted her sexual orientation and reputation as a 'bulldagger' or butch lesbian. She openly flirted with women in the audience. She was a 250 pound woman dressed in men's clothes (including a signature tuxedo and top hat), who played piano and sang her own raunchy lyrics to popular tunes of the day in a deep, growling voice while flirting outrageously with women in the audience.

Starting in 1928 (at age 21) she began a recording career that spanned 2 decades. 8 recordings for the OKeh recording company were followed by a side with the Washboard Serenader’s on the Victor label. Although on her recordings she did not dare have lesbian lyrics, she certainly played up this image in the clubs and in public. She married a white woman from NJ and used her fortune to provide them with an apartment on Park Avenue complete with servants and drivers.

In the 1930s the repeal of Prohibition quickly eroded the prominence of Harlem speakeasies. Furthermore, the Great Depression seems to have ended much of the "anything goes" spirit of tolerance that had pervaded in the 1920s. By 1937 the glory days of Jungle Alley were very much a thing of the past. Bentley (now aged 30) moved to Los Angeles to live with her mother in a small California bungalow. She was able to maintain some success, particularly during World War 2 when many homosexual bars proliferated on the west coast. Once again , Bentley carved out a niche for herself in this subculture and environment. Many lesbian women came to see her shows at "Joquins' El Rancho" in Los Angeles and "Monas" in San Francisco, although on occasion she did have legal trouble for performing in her signature male attire.

In the 1950s McCarthyism swept the United States and it was no longer safe to be an "out and proud" butch lesbian bulldagger. Out of desperate fear for her own survival (particularly with an ageing mother to support) Gladys Bentley started wearing dresses, and sanitizing her act. In 1950, Bentley wrote a desperate, largely fabricated article for Ebony entitled "I am Woman Again" in which she claimed to have cured her lesbianism via female hormone treatments. Bentley became an active and devoted member of "The Temple of Love in Christ, Inc". She was about to become an ordained minister in the church when she died of a flu epidemic in 1960 at the age of 52.

These desperate attempts to survive do not diminish her previous accomplishments. For many years, on a daily basis, she took risks that would not be common until the Stonewall era. In the last two decades, Rosetta Records has re-issued some of Ms. Bentley’s songs as part of various "Women in Jazz" compilations.

Recommendation: Afghan Girls Growing Up as Boys

2010-10-15T16:19:00.000-04:00

Recommendation: Afghan Girls Growing Up as Boys: "

Dayle recommends…

Afghan Girls Growing Up as Boys

article

This is a great New York Times article about the way many Afghan girls and their mothers deal with social pressures. Women are pressured to have boys, not girls, and girls are treated poorly. To cope, some mothers choose to pass their little girl off as a little boy. Outside their home, these girls grow up as boys.

I found it fascinating and you should definitely take a look.

» Recommend something. «

2010 Danish Female Bodybuilding Champ

2010-08-20T12:24:00.000-04:00

Diesel.

Swagger on a Hundred Thousand Trillion.

2010-08-20T12:18:00.000-04:00

Here's a quick guide to the amount of dough being tricked off by our government to save the national economy from the corrupt practices of Wall Street and our national banks. Click Here.

Before Yeezy....

2010-08-20T12:15:00.000-04:00

I've got the baddest 9th grade crush on Kanye's fine ass girlfriend Amber Rose, and apparently chick was involved with women before Yeezy. She openly acknowledges having exclusive monogamous relationships with one or the other. Not at the same time.

My favorite quote from her is:
"I love to be on my back, so I can look into my man's eyes while he's stroking me"

Damn.

Shout out to MTO for reporting this professionally and without conjecture

Congratulations, she's a stud.

Listen to a Interview with Amber Rose.

Heard they'd do anything for a klondike
Well I'd do anything for a blonde dyke
And she'll do anything for the limelight
And we'll do anything when the time's right
Ugh...baby, you're makin' it (harder, better, faster, stronger)

Couth: Wave Building Resources.

2010-08-20T06:24:00.000-04:00

Fellas, It's very important to look, dress, and smell your best.

Here is a quick guide to getting your waves tight.

wavebuilderguide.pdf

Meet the Caucus: Patricia "Cacahuate (Peanut)" Manuel

2010-08-20T06:19:00.003-04:00

Patricia Manuel

Home: Commerce, CA
Birthday: July 22, 1985
Weight Class: Light Welterweight/132 lb/60 kg
Height: 5-6
Coach's Name: Roberto Luna
Club Name: Commerce Boxing Club
Began Boxing: 2003
Occupation: Personal trainer
Career Highlight: Winning National Golden Gloves
Who has been your biggest influence and why: My trainer. He motivates me to improve myself, both inside & outside of the ring.
How did you get involved in boxing: I was overweight and was looking for a way to get into shape.
What is your greatest strength in the ring: Work ethic and metnal fortitude.
Did you ever play any other sports: Softball
What do you love most about boxing: The discipline that is involved and the one-on-one competition.
What are your goals in and out of the ring: To represent the USA in the Olympics
What is your favorite TV show: Misadventures of Flapjack
What are your hobbies outside of boxing: Movies, surfing, music, reading
What is something interesting about you that most people don't know: I have a weakness for pork products.

Patricia "Cacahuate (Peanut)" Manuel is a featherweight professional boxer fighting out of the famed Commerce Boxing Club. The Commerce Boxing Club has produced numerous national amateur champions including two Olympic boxers. Manuel herself boasts four national titles consisting of two National Golden Gloves Champion, Ringside World Champion, and National PAL Champion.

On June 12th, Patricia Manuel won the 2009 National USA Championships and became a member of the USA Boxing Team along with gaining the number 1 ranking in the nation.

DETOX

2010-08-20T05:59:00.000-04:00

Dre with his daughter, Truly.

#imsayin

Redhead Kingpin

2010-05-12T00:01:00.000-04:00

"Sex and the City" actress Cynthia Nixon has opened up about her six-year relationship with Christine Marinoni in an interview with The Advocate in which she describes her fiancée as "a short man with boobs."

Nixon, who played lawyer Miranda Hobbs in the iconic HBO series and movie, is the cover girl on The Advocate's summer issue. In a lengthy interview with Matthew Breen, she talks about coming out in the glare of the spotlight, living in a two-mother family and going topless on screen.

Congrats to the Happy Butch Femme Couple

[I consider redheads women of colour]

The Power of T

2010-05-09T21:51:00.000-04:00

What does testosterone do?
Find out here.

Dykiest Straight Chick Alive.

2010-04-30T01:32:00.000-04:00

via cuteboysihlesbiangirls

Profile: Johnathan

2010-04-30T00:35:00.000-04:00

Profile: Johnathan

You can call me… jay or johnathan

I identify as… a person that is generally confused… in my mind i’m a boi trapped in a female’s body. in life i’m just different: that girl that dresses in boy clothes and unsuccessfully tries to bind her chest. i’m gay and me and i hate labels.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … i love it when people use male pronouns… and call me johnathan – when they call me “janell” i’m like, who is that person? female pronouns make me uncomfortable…

I’m attracted to… im attracted to females… genderqueers… um i don’t really have any feelings towards biological males… and i haven’t had that much experience in other people… i love everyone that loves me!

When people talk about me, I want them to… understand that i am sensitive. i may seem crazy, stupid, and weird on the outside, but i’m really just a person. a creative soul trapped in a body.

I want people to understand… that you should love the inside first. the outside is just like clothing. it changes but the soul remains the same. people are just people and sometimes they don’t fit into the social binary that the world is consumed with…

About Jay/Johnathan

i am 16, currently a senior in high school. i’m a writer and currently have a blog and vlog that i don’t really update. you can find me on facebook (”jay banks”) and on blogger: pandab-g.blogspot.com. search johnathan1330 on youtube and you might find me.

» Define yourself. «

[via Genderfork]

LADY G "POPPIN (SUPER TURNT UP)" OFFICIAL MUSIC VIDEO

2010-04-22T21:41:00.002-04:00

Stud like whut.
Look like Chris Brown & Tyga went and stole ole girls swag, flow, beat, and hook.

I'm mean it is some Jerk ish.
[If you don't follow westcoast trends you might not get that new boyz joke]

#hatecrime.

Peep the letter.

I'm Lady G Da Real Deal an independent artist and songwriter from LA, who has written songs for Snoop, Queen Latifah, Lil Fizz and J Boog of B2k and Chris Brown's artist Scooter Smiff, I've also co written with T.I.and host of other artists . Anyway, Chris Brown and Tyga released a video yesterday called "Holla at me". Where they use my lyrics and catch phrase on the hook.

My song that they wrongfully used is called "Poppin'(Super Turnt Up)" (the reason he saying "I'm Turnt Up, I'm Super Turnt Up). I've included the link to my video which was shot Sept. 2009. They been playing my song on the radio in LA since Dec. 2009. I know this is not a coincedence because like I stated earlier I write for his artist and his artist is actually dancing in both of our videos. Plus all know the same people in LA and Hollywood.

I'm not one to internet beef or twitter bang on weak ass uncreative n***as like these two losers trying to get back on. I've worked hard everything I'm doing and its not cool for n***as to think they just steal somebody swag and song because they're new artists.

So help me expose them AHH. Check out my video, listen to my hook and check out they weak ass shit.

Even if you dont post this, this is not the last you gon hear about it and will be posting it sooner or later but I'm a fan of the site so I'm giving you guys the exclusive because unlike Tyga b***h ass, I am from LA and my city supports me and if I dont get word back from them soon, they gon have to leave the little hollywood hideout.

Look into it though, and I'd appreciate your help in exposing these n***as once again.

Check the Myspace for Lady G face and body: http://www.myspace.com/swaggasagg
Find her tunes: http://www.myspace.com/ladygtv

Here's CB & Tyga's song....

What do you think.

[shout out to illseed/rumors/AllHipHop.com]

What Does DWYCK Mean Anyway?

2010-04-19T23:26:00.000-04:00

What Does DWYCK Mean Anyway?

The answer from Gifted Unlimited Rhymes Universal himself:

GURU: “It was just a slang that we used to use back then. It was like a slang thing we used to do. Greg Nice used to do it to everybody. Biz Markie started it actually. You used be in a crowd and say someone’s name and go ‘Yo! Son!’ The person would turn around and go ‘What? What?’ and you would say: ‘Dwyck!’. It’s like ‘My dick!’. It means the male genitalia. We switched it up to ‘Dwyck’. It was just some sh*t to psyche each other out.”

God is Universal; he is the Ruler Universal

Keith Elam

July 17, 1966 – April 19, 2010

Bout to cut some parts in my eyebrow outta respect.

In Power, brethren.

Original Styles: Kate Ross

2010-04-13T03:23:00.000-04:00

Found Art

2010-04-12T19:35:00.000-04:00

Queer Revolution.

2010-04-12T02:14:00.000-04:00

genderqueer:

(via neutresex): "

genderqueer:

(via neutresex)

FTM Binder & Packer Show 'n Tell

2010-03-17T23:23:00.000-04:00

FTM Binder & Packer Show 'n Tell:

	FTM Binder & Packer Show 'n Tell Binder from www.Underworks.com 983 (don't forget to google a discount!) Packer from www.Goodvibes.com GV Soft Pack (1) Coupon code for 20% off GVIXFF2 correction My mistake, the gv soft pack apparently can be converted into a STP. Tried to be informative for those who bind, pack or are just curious.

[ARTICLES] GIRLS GOT KICKS BOOK!

2010-03-17T23:20:00.000-04:00

[ARTICLES] GIRLS GOT KICKS BOOK!: "

Sneaker Freakettes of the world, it's time to STAND UP! Lori Lobenstine (Female Sneaker Fiend) along with photographer extraordinaire Amanda Lopez are about to slam head-on into the publication world, with their new book ‘Girls Got Kicks'. It's all about breaking down stereotypes, and with these two behind the wheel, who knows what will happen. We caught up with the ladies as they trek the globe to capture the true essence of female sneaker collecting. Lads, step aside, sisters are doin' it for themselves!

::LORI LOBENSTINE - AUTHOR::

Hey Lori, did you ever imagine just how many ladies were into this cuckoo sneaker craze?
As a youth worker and basketball coach I knew that everywhere I went there were girls who were crazy about their kicks. So doing the math, I knew there were a lot of us! I still think there are way more girls out there into kicks than we realize. So many of them aren’t online, they’re just out there doing their own badass thing, running under our radar and repping in their own ways. Having said that, I never knew Female Sneaker Fiend would become such a meeting place and online community for girls and women all over the world. That’s been really cool and it’s taught me a lot…

Why was the website such a necessity back when you launched in 2005?
It was a real bridge between girls and the online sneaker community. Most of the other sites at that time were so male-dominated that many girls got turned off by being disrespected or having to wade through stupid pics of near-naked girls wearing kicks. We needed a site that truly reflected the real female sneaker fiends. Now it’s a home base for a lot of girls who also rep on other sites. They come back to FSF for the community, to buy and sell on the largest marketplace for small sneakers, to learn about getting into the industry and to check out the competition.

Has the battle for smaller sizes and more diversity within the female footwear category been won?
Well, it depends. I think we’ve come a long way in two directions. Firstly, the growth of small brands that are creating diverse product for women like Booji, Keep and Milkshake Kicks and secondly, the growth of the big brands, particularly Nike, finally paying attention to their female customers with nice colabs, more options and finer attention to detail. Female sneaker fiends are looking for the hottest and most exclusive shit just like their male counterparts. I’m not saying that’s the only way to be a fiend, but for those girls, having the exclusives come out in small sizes would be HUGE. It’s a more gender-neutral view of sneakers, and I think it better represents the sneaker fiend community at large. The second direction I want to see growth in is marketing. None of these brands that spend billions on marketing their product actually advertise their women’s sneakers, with the occasional exception of certain performance shoes. Yes, they send info to sneaker sites like FSF and SF so we can spread the word, but when have you ever seen them actually advertise a women’s sneaker? It’s a vicious cycle. The sneakers don’t get advertised, so they don’t sell, so they don’t get funding for development, so they’re not great kicks, so female sneaker fiends don’t buy them, so…

It ends up driving you bananas! Why continue the fight for FSFs worldwide?
It’s fun! As much as I love sneakers, I love the female sneaker fiends just as much. I feel like an insider sociologist. I’m fascinated and moved by this passion we have for our kicks and all the different ways that females express it. And the fact that it’s less expected, that it’s overlooked, that it challenges some stereotypes… that just makes it more intense and more interesting. It’s pretty easy to like kicks if you’re a guy. But if you’re a girl with a sick collection you’re going to face-down some folks who really doubt you. So I love female sneaker fiends for that glint in their eye, that swagger in their step and the extra knowledge they have to have for when guys assume they don’t.

You’re about to capture that essence with your new publication Girls Got Kicks. How important will this be for the movement?
Girls Got Kicks aims to capture the style, passion and variety of female sneaker fiends in a book that collages words and images, the young and old, the famous and ordinary. From girls in small towns who thought they were the only girl out there who loved kicks to girls who spend countless hours on sneaker websites, from fashionistas to tomboys, graff artists to indie rockers, Girls Got Kicks will be a tribute to females who have reshaped footwear in their own image. Our community is as rich and colorful as our collections, and we want folks to see that. In terms of the book’s impact on the movement, that’s a great question. I think anytime a movement can see itself and celebrate itself, it grows and deepens. I think the book will not only help connect us, but help push aside stereotypes about who a female sneaker fiend is. I’m constantly inspired by all the ways that girls represent themselves with their kicks. I hope Girls Got Kicks inspires them as much as they inspire me.

Preach on! So what inspired you to get the project off the ground?
Bobbito Garcia’s book, Where’d You Get Those? inspired both the website and the upcoming book. In fact, the site has been partly about building the community to the place where it is now, both in terms of size and connectivity, so that the book can properly reflect the whole scene. As much as I love Where’d You Get Those?, Bobbito managed to include hundreds of photos without a single female. He said he didn’t know any female sneaker fiends. It made me swear that never again would someone not know how to find us. The website has done that, and now a book will make our presence more permanent.

Tell us about hooking up with the photographer Amanda Lopez…
I hooked up with Amanda Lopez in two ways. First, I found her when I looked for photographers from the Younity Collective, a great group of female artists. Then I saw she had also done that phenomenal Mama Clothing Lookbook with the Fall/Winter ‘08 ‘La Vida Loca’ theme. I was really impressed, and I could tell she was great at capturing the essence and vibe of her subjects. I checked in with both Toofly (cofounder of Younity) and Gabriella (Mama Clothing) and they gave her rave reviews. Then I reached out to see if she was interested. I thought I had a chance because of her cool ‘Vans: True Story’ project, and sure enough, she was intrigued. It’s been an amazing partnership. She’s a fantastic photographer and nothing stops her. Already I’ve seen her face down in pouring rain, traffic, poor light, a garbage-ridden photo-shoot site and a red-eye flight. She’s phenomenal.

Are you hoping to branch out globally with your search or will this be purely US-based?
We’re going global. The images in the book will be a mix of Amanda’s portraits and shots sent in by fiends from all over – even if we can’t get Amanda to you, we can get you in the book! We haven’t determined all of the photo shoot sites, but the book will feature interviews and photos from all over the globe. More details on photo shoots will be forthcoming, but images and interview requests can always be sent to photoshoot@femalesneakerfiend.com.

You’re yet to break a solid book deal for Girls Got Kicks – what’s the next step for the magic to happen?
Well, we have to do the work. So far, we’ve been putting together what we hope is a powerful, irresistible product. We haven’t taken it to publishers yet, but we have some good contacts and we’re optimistic. We want them to understand that this isn’t a niche book: that sneakers speak to a wide variety of girls and women all over the world, and that the book is about the people, not just the kicks. We’re also looking at the advantages and disadvantages of self-publishing, because that is so much more doable these days. The quality and affordability of self-publishing and distribution have improved tremendously, so everything’s on the table right now. We’re really excited!

So are we! Is this book going to make the big brands and our male counterparts take female sneaker collectors seriously?
Great question. I guess I’d have to say at the end of the day, it’s really about us. So if the sneaker companies take notice, gravy. If our beloved male counterparts buy it for their sisters, girlfriends or moms, perfect. But if the brands continue to think we all live for pink sneakers, and if guys want to go on with their ideas that we stumbled onto our James Worthy NBs by accident, well, that’s on them. The book is so WE KNOW. No one can take it away from us. We’re here, and we’re kicking down barriers all over the world with skills and collections to match anybody’s.

::AMANDA LOPEZ - PHOTOGRAPHER::

Hey Amanda, last time we spoke you’d just finished off your True Story Series with Vans and now you’ve jumped into working on this massive Girls Got Kicks project. How did you become involved?
I got involved thanks to Lori. She had seen some of my Vans Shoe shots via the great ladies over at the Younity Collective and later, my work with Mama Clothing. She first approached me about sharing the Vans work on the site then through email exchanges, I found out she was working on the Girls Got Kicks project and she asked if I would be interested in contributing. Each lady obviously has a different story to tell and as a photographer it is your job to capture that essence

How did you approach each shoot?
Lori and I really wanted to try and capture the ladies in locations that were personal to them. I really like to photograph people in their own environments so it was really important to me that we try and do that with this project. When someone is comfortable in their environment, that sense of being comfortable comes out in the shot. Before each individual shoot, Lori or myself would talk with the girls and ask them about their collection and where they would like to be photographed. There is a level of spontaneity that comes when you give the subject that type of control but I enjoy shooting that way so I felt really comfortable showing up to a location and working with the elements to try and create a portrait. We photographed a lot of girls in their bedrooms or homes, in their neighbourhoods, the shoe stores where they work, on trains they would ride into the city to buy their kicks etc. Pretty much we would go wherever the subject wanted us to go for the sake of the portrait.

What challenges did you face in creating the best possible outcome for each image?
Every single girl we’ve photographed has been super sweet so the shoots have been fun and I feel like we’ve gotten some nice images because of the good vibes. The only real challenge that I think we’ve faced however is time. Since we are really trying to represent the diversity of the female sneaker culture we really want to go all over the U.S. and eventually the world, to photograph. With that said, when we travel we only have a limited amount of time in each city so we are only able to photograph a limited number of girls. In a perfect world it would be awesome to spend at least a couple of weeks in each of the cities we go to.

As seen in Issue 16 of Sneaker Freaker

Profile: Makai

2010-03-15T23:57:00.000-04:00

Profile: Makai: "

You can call me… Makai.

I identify as… Genderqueer, with more masculine qualities than feminine.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer “ze” and “hir,” or none.

I’m attracted to… anyone… masculine, feminine, androgyne… not by looks, but by personality. I am pansexual, so I can be attracted to anyone; I focus on who they are as a person, not what they are or what body parts they have.

When people talk about me, I want them to… realize that gender, sex, and gender expression are totally different things that come in a huge variety. Just because you’re born male doesn’t mean you have to be masculine, just because you look feminine doesn’t mean you have to identify as female, etc.

I want people to understand… that there are many different gender benders out there that will express themselves in more than one way. So don’t be closed-minded and societal about how people “should” be and dress.

About Makai

I’m a young adult, and still trying to figure out what to do with my life. I know I don’t conform to society’s norms, and I’m proud of it.

» Define yourself. «

via GenderQueer

AutoStraddle's Collecting Queer Prom Pics

2010-03-15T18:33:00.000-04:00

the cuteness of our queer prom gallery is off the charts at this point.

too cute.

(via autostraddle)

Moving Forward

2010-03-10T22:23:00.000-05:00

Happy New Years! This is my first post of 2010. I have been asked more than a little bit what is The Butch Caucus. So here's the unabridged explanation.

Q:What is the Butch Caucus ?

A: We are an unofficial association of butch,stud,ag,dom,ftm, genderqueer, and transcurious persons.

Q:Who are the members of The Butch Caucus?

A:Any butch,stud,ag,dom,ftm,genderqueer, and trans-curious who has the courage to identify and introduce themselves to a butch,stud,ag,dom,ftm,genderqueer, or trans-curious that they don't know in order to show respect is considered for membership.

Q:What are the benefits of membership?

A:Quite simply, influence.

[Ed. Note: We are a oxymorons. There are few of us, but I see us everywhere. And when I do, to the few of you that I have had the chance to meet in person, I introduce myself. I'm just like you fam. I'm out here in the world and obviously gay/queer. I get the same, looks, comments, gestures. I get challenged everyday by something or someone. Am I too hard to be up in this college's ladies room. I sometimes question what people see when they see me. Am I passing today.]

If we can greet, each other, regularly meet with each other, and show each other respect with no less than a nod. Then we will have created a bond. The same principle found in sorority, fraternity, family, company, or platoon. If we could move at once, in unison, We can shake the ground. Tilt the scale. Swing the vote.

Let us consider this a mutually beneficial relationship and create the network.

If you see a butch,stud,ag,dom,ftm, genderqueer, or transcurious person, that you've never met before.

Hit me up and tell me about it. I want to know how you felt and what you said.

Q:What comes after that?

A: Let's see how this goes.

the lost bois present: The Strap Step

2010-03-10T22:06:00.000-05:00

Gay. And Ugandan. Click the image for more via...

2010-03-10T16:08:00.000-05:00

Gay. And Ugandan. Click the image for more via...: "

Gay. And Ugandan. Click the image for more via Fransee

(hoitycoity)

[via gangs all queer]

Bound Yonder

2010-03-10T11:59:00.000-05:00

Bound Yonder:

“Bound Yonder” submitted by Yondergen, the model and photographer

[via GenderFork]

“Puh-leeeze don’t like me!”

2010-03-08T11:42:00.001-05:00

[VIA http://sublimefemme.wordpress.com]

“Puh-leeeze don’t like me!”: "
Inspiration from the world of Miss Grace Jones….

“I do what I want and I’m satisfied with it, whether or not it pleases everybody…. Actually, there are certain people I definitely don’t want to please. There are some people I’m like ‘Oh no, puh-leeeze don’t like me!’”

“If you’re out there you’re vulnerable. People prefer to disappear in life, to repress their personality. That’s not living. It’s dying. I see them all over the place, the walking dead.”

“I wasn’t born this way. One creates oneself.”

"

Meet the First DC Couples to Apply for Marriage Licenses!

2010-03-08T11:39:00.000-05:00

Meet the First DC Couples to Apply for Marriage Licenses!: "

Meet the First DC Couples to Apply for Marriage Licenses!

The Art of Keeping a Stud.

2010-03-06T17:26:00.000-05:00

I follow butch stuff. I actively seek out things that are not only queer but queer or gay in the way that it relates to masculinity in women.

That's my official stance on why the f*ck I stay on Craigslist.

The Art of Keeping a Good Stud is the perfect example of what I would consider a payoff for such tenacious browsing.

This is the word for word quote from the entire listing. I'm not even gonna correct the spelling. I'm not sayings she's 1000% correct or this is the way, but she's on to something.

READ!

"I write this post in hopes of helping opther feminine women understand how to keep a good woman, specifically a sexy strong stud. About me, I am very strong willed and minded I have dated women exclusively for 9 years and I realized a good stud is hard to find. I dated fanatics, possible drug rehabilitators, people who thought they ha dit going on. LOL..I even dated someone who I had fun with but at the end of the day I needed more more my 12 year old son and future. Although the relationship I will describe, I am no longer in, I can look back and remember the good times. I met "Shane" (name not real) at a time where I had met plenty of women but none quit perked my attention. My first mistake was I had dated so long I doubted i could never find that "one" so I didn't properly excercise how to act when one I feell for" came. I didn't lay out my my plan or what I would be willing to do but I talked about it. I got scared to love, I should have taken care of me more for her( I began to get comfortable), I didn't allow me to blossom with this woman who I loved so much. We look back and laugh, but my heart still skips a beat when I smell her cologne in the streets, it doesn't quite smell like it does when she wears it. I don't thinks she ever knew the true me that I love to cook, clean, be attentive, it was almost as if I choose to run her away. Studs will be hard and act hard but at the end of the day, they want to be pampered, loved, respected and I think many of us go wrong in not claiming them as if they were a man. I know many of you women are like "WHAT" look I know being with a woman is fundamnetally different but at times I would talk back in ways I would never to a man when I dated one, my family was accepting but my fathers approval or lack there or wasn't as flexible as when I had dated a man. I write this because stubborness doesn't bring love. -Terriisa

See actual POST.

#everythugneedsalady

Meet the Caucus: Zanele Muholi

2010-03-02T16:02:00.001-05:00

ZANELE

Zanele Muholi was born in Umlazi, Durban [like Capetown a township in South Africa], in 1972. She completed an Advanced Photography course at the Market Photo Workshop in Newtown and held her first solo exhibition at the Johannesburg Art Gallery in 2004.

She has worked as a community relations officer for the Forum for the Empowerment of Women (FEW), a black lesbian organisation based in Gauteng, and as a photographer and reporter for Behind the Mask, an online magazine on lesbian and gay issues in Africa. Her work represents the black female body in a frank yet intimate way that challenges the history of the portrayal of black women's bodies in documentary photography.

In 2008 she had a solo show at Le Case d'Arte, Milan, and in 2009 she exhibited alongside Lucy Azubuike at the CCA Lagos, Nigeria. She was the recipient of the 2005 Tollman Award for the Visual Arts, the first BHP Billiton/Wits University Visual Arts Fellowship in 2006, and was the 2009 Ida Ely Rubin Artist-in-Residence at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT).

Recent News - The opening of an exhibition at Constitution Hill turned sour when Arts and Culture Minister Lulu Xingwana stormed out of the exhibition, calling the work "immoral"

See Also: Faces and Phases is an ongoing series of black and white portraits that focuses on the commemoration and celebration of black lesbians' lives, and challenges the public's perceptions of female and male identity. Click Here.

Profile: Sam

2010-02-28T20:32:00.000-05:00

Profile: Sam: "

You can call me… Sam

I identify as… a lesbian-identified bisexual. a (wo)man. a “girl” who has “boy” days… often. QUEER-ish.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … i couldn’t care less. i usually get hit with the “she,” but on the rare occasions when i catch a wayward “he”… it doesn’t really surprise me. i mean…why not?

I’m attracted to… butchy girls. future wnba stars. pantheism. men over 6 feet tall. Liars and Frauds, or anyone who can tell a story and get away with it. other foster faces.

When people talk about me, I want them to… look me in the eye. mean what they say. realize that just because i’m masculine doesn’t mean i’m a dyke. just because i’m gay doesn’t mean i’m a lesbian…

I want people to understand… and just because im not a boy, that doesn’t necessarily mean i’m a girl either. that i wouldn’t give up my black (wo)manhood for the world. and that their son or daughter could get it. bisexuality is not a disease.

About Sam

I will be 19 years next week. My wife just left me, but i wear her ring everyday. I work as an advisor to incoming freshman and transfer students at my university, and although they don’t understand me, they love me just the same. & so should everyone. Foster care fosters creativity, and sometimes, even love. Biracial is beautiful.

» Define yourself. «

SRSLY, Fuck RuPaul right now.

2010-01-28T02:24:00.004-05:00

FoxxJazzell is killing me.
Arite, you gone think I'm fucked up but, you can't just sell it to the "community" because you're gay.
Your music, your poetry, your book, your clothing line. Your anything has to be quality.

It quite simply has to be good.

Any questions?
http://formspring.me/TheButchCaucus

Foxxjazell stands 5’10 and is a striking mocha beauty that just so happens to be transgender. However, don’t brush off this young talented rapper because of her gender.Noted is one of the first transgender artists to recieve mainstream success, Foxxjazell performed for thousands of people at the world famous Arena nightclub in Hollywood. She also opened for 90’s divas Robin S., Rupaul and CeCe Peniston. Point Blank, this kid has garned the attention of TMZ and XXL magazine just to name a few.

Foxxjazell Keva Jackson was born in Birmingham, AL from a family of hardworking hustlers. Both her mother and father worked all types of odds jobs to keep food in her mouth. At the age 6, she became influenced by the likes of Salt n Pepa, Michael Jackson and Madonna. “I would lock myself in my room and pretend I was performing in front of millions of screaming fans. “Her parents didn’t share the same vision that she did instead they encouraged her to pursue a career more “logical” like teaching or nursing. By the age 17, Foxxjazell graduated from high school with honors and was looking to conquer life as an entertainer. Her influences had advanced to 2pac, DaBrat, TLC and Biggie Smalls.

She took a one-way ticket to Hollywood with less than $20 in her purse. While in Hollywood, she started off modeling with a few print ads and also booked a few music videos doing background work. She quickly became discouraged when she realized these gigs didn’t lead her anywhere. A change had to be made. The change came in the form of 14 year-old Maurice Tito Lopez, a runaway kid with big dream of making it big. The two young artists quickly teamed up and began making and performing music together. They eventually formed a group named One20five with two other local rappers. One20five performed at various venues through out Los Angeles but eventually disbanded in late 2004. Since then, Foxxjazell has performed in the historic Homorevolution tour 07 that hit cities such as San Diego,Houston,Dallas, New Mexico and Phoenix. In 2008, she released her debut album "Introducing....Foxxjazell" which featured the hit singles "Feel the vibe" & "Priority".Her music videos have been in rotation MTV,Logo,HereTV,Fuse and Qtube just to name a few.

"Feel the Vibe" also recieved heavy rotation on the radio. She also appeared on the Tyra Banks show to talk about queer hip-hop and the politics of the music industry that she has had to endure. At the start of 2008 she toured with Homorevolution 08 and The Pretty Thugz tour and which she headlined. She was also recently featured in XXL magazine,IN magazine and CLIK magazine. Her current single "Spilt Enz" is already recieving radio play while she is busy at work on her 2nd album "Boy,girl,whateva". Lookout 4 this girl because she's about to serve it up in a major way.

(via http://www.myspace.com/foxxjazellmusic)

pow.

ps.

sike rupaul...i still love you. now prance!

Exhibit A.

2010-01-18T05:04:00.001-05:00

I'm Sorry, Am I Late?

2009-10-01T00:36:00.002-04:00

Pow.
Whatevers.
They are still fly. Way after the fact.
I just found these on my desktop and I had to make sure these survived the very forgetful minds of pop culture.

Art Lives.

Signed,

The Real American Hero.

Native American Code of Ethics

2009-07-18T14:57:00.005-04:00

As I develop the tenants and bylaws of The Butch Caucus I often look to the founding principles of great cultures and morality precedents set by great leaders. In my research I found this.

The Native American Code of Ethics

1. Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often. The Great Spirit will listen, if you only speak.

2. Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path. Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy and greed stem from a lost soul. Pray that they will find guidance.

3. Search for yourself, by yourself. Do not allow others to make your path for you. It is your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.

4. Treat the guests in your home with much consideration. Serve them the best food, give them the best bed and treat them with respect and honor.

5. Do not take what is not yours whether from a person, a community,the wilderness or from a culture. It was not earned nor given. It is not yours.

6. Respect all things that are placed upon this earth - whether it be people or plant.

7. Honor other people's thoughts, wishes and words. Never interrupt another or mock or rudely mimic them. Allow each person the right to personal expression.

8. Never speak of others in a bad way. The negative energy that you put out into the universe will multiply when it returns to you.

9. All persons make mistakes. And all mistakes can be forgiven.

10. Bad thoughts cause illness of the mind, body and spirit. Practice optimism.

11. Nature is not FOR us, it is a PART of us. They are part of your worldly family.

12. Children are the seeds of our future. Plant love in their hearts and water them with wisdom and life's lessons. When they are grown, give them space to grow.

13. Avoid hurting the hearts of others. The poison of your pain will return to you.

14. Be truthful at all times. Honesty is the test of one's will within this universe.

15. Keep yourself balanced. Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self - all need to be strong, pure and healthy. Work out the body to strengthen the mind. Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails.

16. Make conscious decisions as to who you will be and how you will react. Be responsible for your own actions.

17. Respect the privacy and personal space of others. Do not touch the personal property of others - especially sacred and religious objects. This is forbidden.

18. Be true to yourself first. You cannot nurture and help others if you cannot nurture and help yourself first.

19. Respect others religious beliefs. Do not force your belief on others.

20. Share your good fortune with others. Participate in charity.

While it is not the end all be all of my search when the other shoe drops the founding principles will represent all members as well as they possibly can. Read over what the original Americans thought of themselves and their environment and see if it can't apply to you now, before the butches caucus.

To see other guides I've researched check the tenants of Tupac's Thug Life Gang Treaty [see the Honor post].

wun,

tbc.

Don't Smoke the Rainbow.

2009-07-10T01:01:00.004-04:00

Blowin Smarties?! What on God's green earth.

Professional Attire and the Stud

2009-05-20T05:39:00.002-04:00

This is a developing blog. I will cover several areas and provide you with resources for getting you the masculine into some non casual gear.

Yo Majesty - Club Action

2009-03-18T20:15:00.006-04:00

They've been around forever now.
I'ma dig for new music.
Developing....
found it - Click the pic....Booty Clap is bananas.

Now Playing in England.

tbc.

A Diss. A Diss.

2009-03-18T19:46:00.005-04:00

Click image to Enlarge.

"*Studs--What the hell is a "Stud"? I mean, if that's slang for a wannabe hoodrat who doesn't shower, writes in Ghetto CamelCase (i.e, SinG1e PR3Ty LaDi3 4 S4ud), and acts and dresses like a fool, then maybe I do know...well, writing like you have a 3rd grade education doesn't make you unique, it just makes you a loser. "

I have no idea what she's read or who she's dated.
Proposal: Some young mackavelli should 1up the lame who's got her twisted.

with love.... TBC.

Corrective Rape...TFKSIT.

2009-03-17T06:35:00.004-04:00

aka the f*ck kinda sh*t is this.

Read this Caucus. Men in South Africa (websites would end in .za) believe they can "cure" lesbians with corrective rape. I heard this before, at the corner store.

If there is any advocacy group viewing this. I and 20 of my most thuggish masculine lesbian friends would be willing to travel (if sponsored) to South Africa to begin corrective ass whoopings for those ignorant enough to even think this ideology plausible.

Meet the Caucus.

2008-12-06T02:59:00.004-05:00

We've another celebrity in the ranks. If you see her be sure to ask for preferential treatment, on the basis of your masculinity and/or gender dysphoria.

Read Up. She's a good egg.

Si Se Puede

2008-11-04T23:12:00.004-05:00

Text Me Your Love, Email me your STD status.

2008-10-26T13:33:00.007-04:00

I had my own STD scare in college. I had some risky sex and found out through rumors and other networks that I girl I had been with had HPV. I marched my ass to the clinic and put my entire sexual history on the books. I remember having to confess all my dirty dyke secrets to a homophobic west indian physicians assistant. I told her that my face was were disease may have been, WHAT DO I NEED TO DO !

There was no shame in my game. I got every test known to man that day and came up roses (to this day!). What the triflin hoe didn't know is that my first girlfriend in life had HPV but since my EX was a grown ass woman we practiced safe sex. I knew then, just as I know now that you can still have a sex life with an STD. Thank god for honest women.

But this. Wow. I personally consider this a good thing. For all the wimps, punks, and ignoramuses who can't tell you that they have an STD before you have sex there's a new anonymous way to let folks know that you got the bug and they might too.

At least you know right?

STD Notification Service

Play safe Caucus.

Here's my favorite. Wish it had a girl on it. (but that's how I feel about most things.)

GAY is the new N**G*R.

2008-10-13T02:12:00.011-04:00

California Proposition 8 (2008)

Proposition 8 is an initiative measure on the 2008 California General Election ballot titled Eliminates Right of Same-Sex Couples to Marry. If passed, the proposition would change the California Constitution to eliminate the right of same-sex couples to marry in California. A new section would be added stating "only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in California."

The measure was submitted for the ballot by petitioners with the title "California Marriage Protection Act." The title and summary were revised by Attorney General Jerry Brown to more "accurately reflect the measure." The Superior Court of California ruled in favor of these revisions, stating, "The title and summary is not false or misleading because it states that Proposition 8 would 'eliminate the right of same-sex couples to marry' in California. The California Supreme Court unequivocally held that same-sex couples have a constitutional right to marry under the California Constitution.

This basically says - hey you, LGBTQ - you do not have the same right to partner and build a life with another person. You are disallowed, because of who you are. Sorry it's the law.

If registered to Vote in California - VOTE NO on PROP 8.

Press Play.

Tell me why, tell me why, tell me why.
Why can't we live together?
Tell me why, tell me why.
Why can't we live together?

Everybody wants to live together.
Why can't we be together?

No more war, no more war, no more war...
Just a little peace.
No more war, no more war.
All we want is some peace in this world.

Everybody wants to live together.
Why can't we be together?

No matter, no matter what colour.
You are still my brother.
I said no matter, no matter what colour.
You are still my brother.

Everybody wants to live together
Why can't we be together?

Everybody wants to live.
Everybody's got to be together.

Everybody wants to live.
Everybody's going to be together.

Everybody's got to be together.
Everybody wants to be together.

I said no matter, no matter what colour.
You're still my brother.
I said no matter, no matter what colour.
You're still my brother.

Everybody wants to live together.
Why can't we be together?

Gotta live together...
Together.

Respect.

2008-03-04T23:48:00.001-05:00

Caucus.

Listen to what he's angry at.

Listen to what he's defending.

If you love something you're going to want to protect it.

Props to the Family Stud.

BUTCH FEMME VIDEOS

2008-02-28T15:02:00.004-05:00

I absolutely love this video.
Go to their page and support their page Caucus.
Hot girls! Who like Butchies.
um. no brainer. scoot!

Go Team Gina !

R.I.P. SNOOP

2008-02-28T14:28:00.004-05:00

Felicia "Snoop" Pearson's fictional character on the wire has been laid to rest.

Boom. Bye Bye.

What's next Fe ?

Read a book Caucus.

I Ain't Mad Atcha

2008-02-28T04:03:00.006-05:00

Pictures say a thousand words, but I can't seem to think of anything. I mean she went from beast to beast. A pretty stud is a pretty girl is a pretty girl a pretty stud? MediaTakeout the home of many a rumor and random celeb gossip has deemed this tabloid news worthy. Man I can't call it.

RIP Regina Shavers

2008-01-29T23:59:00.001-05:00

My butch mentor has passed.

I can't get angry or sad enough.

My butch mentor has passed.

I can tell you how we met. I used to work P/T with LGBT Elders in Brooklyn. I was a Volunteer Coordinator. Regina was the Founder/Executive Director of Griot Circle. http://www.griotcircle.org/. [A queer black elder organization ]

I got a flyer in the mail one day and it said

"Butch Party:A party for...studs, aggressives, jaspers @ Griot Circle"

I souped it up like it was for networking on behalf of my position.
but. I was so excited. I was going.
You know that feeling when you even start picking your outfit out.
You're thinking if you already own something to wear or do you need to go shopping.

Yea excited like that.

I was more curious than anything. I had already amazed myself and the Philadelphia Police by surviving past 21. I was curious to see what was behind door # 55. What did older out butch women look like, who were their women, is there really a happy ending. Can we have relationships, marriages, friends. Do we live ?

Yes we do and large. There was mad food. All I remember was fried chicken and macaroni and cheese. I think some catfish got mixed in there too. I hung out for a little bit, scoping the scene. I usually get way nervous and paranoid at explicitly gay events that aren't in clubs. This was different, I felt comfortable, like i couldn't have been in more safe and unassuming place. And as if on cue right there in the middle of it. Regina per her funding regulations demonstrated how to put a condom on and how to use a female condom.

Party and Bullshit.

but all fun and jokes. with older dyke folks.

I kept that flyer and went to check in with her off and on. We were only friends for a couple of years. She was in chemo and doing her thing. I kept her in high regard and counted her among people I wanted to be like when I grew up. It doesn't take a decade to realize that you are talking to someone important. Important enough to you for you, in your heart of hearts, to model their best behaviors.

Seeing her live so real makes me frustrated with the invisible closeted black gay celebs.
I mean, start a foundation or something.
Don't do nothing. right? right.

Thank you for your life and Rest in Peace Regina Shavers.

Want to know a little more about her life ?

An abridged biography on Regina Shavers.

Dress like a...?

2008-01-16T02:56:00.000-05:00

hmm. i watched the whole thing. and it basically gives you the low down on prep. boi. it's an honest effort to validate and pull up the suburban butch populus. aka the white boys.
I mean, she damn sure ain't talking bout me. i got some nice ass hats.

[for your fitted fix]

Crazy, Baby.

2007-12-28T06:47:00.000-05:00

Okay, this is dumb funny but I mean to make a statement about aggression and illusion. Babies can't know what their faces mean.

Watch your presentation and each others backs, in no specific order.

2008 HARD.

Hold Me Down

2007-12-27T21:29:00.000-05:00

Quick Lil Binding Tutorial By Some Hawaiians getting ready for prom.

Mahalo.

Ever Install A Car Radio ?

2007-12-27T20:49:00.000-05:00

Hey homies...

I'm tasking myself with installing a car stereo this weekend.
I'm damn handy and imagine I can figure it out.

I checked this out on line.

Installing Sh*t For New Jacks

Anything else I need to know ?

Holla in the comments !

TBC

I'll post the *uh* results.

Gay or G [angsta]

2007-12-22T10:48:00.000-05:00

Suspect:
Tyra Bolling

Evidence:
VA representa Tyra Bolling got a good thing going. Givin Me a Rush is the result of interpolating or in laymans terms "using the best parts" of Paula Abdul and Michael Jackson hits, Rush/Rush & Human Nature. [respectively.] Romantic pop perfect for the radio.

But um, did you see the video ?

Look who's dykin.

*ahem Latifah*

I ain't hating.

I'm just saying.

Shout out to Suffolk, VA
and my Best Friend & Cousin who just got out of Sussex II State Prison after 12 years.

Secret Lovers, yea, That's what we are...

2007-12-18T11:50:00.002-05:00

Dissed by Remy, a studs lament

Look at this vid yo. This poor stud is emotionally snitching on herself. She's all distressed because Remy ain't calling her no more. It's sad really. She get's an answer on the phone and the first thing out her mouth is "why you frontin on me?" C'mon buddy. She answered the phone schun! Where's your mack at.

#1. Your game is wack.

#2. What were those one's ?

Damn right Remy hung up on that ass. She got blonde bangs now. What!!! I see skin lightening in her future ala Lil Kim...mebbe she'll get a TV show like EVE. After she get out Rikers.

Young homie. Step your game up. Throw some of that dough in her commissary. Get a clean do rag. Find another set of words for Na mean and stop whining over Remy on record. It's making us look bad. I understand heartbreak, but sit with your emotions why you gotta be on blast mode. You know folks ain't trying to have their shit out there like that and you let some hood knuckle head juice you for gossip. Boo. Your snitch rating is so high right now, I wouldn't even sell you a bootleg DVD.

Question for The Butch Caucus:
What would you have said if Remy took your call?

War Report From A Young Stud...

2007-12-14T02:05:00.000-05:00

Fav quote:

Who made up Rainbow ? I know the Leprachauns but...

lmao.

Myspace and Downelink Pages.

2007-12-14T00:47:00.000-05:00

God!

So I finally made a Myspace component and Downelink component to the:

Comment, Ask Questions or Start beef..let's start the conversation.

Don't forget to ADD me. So I can read all your blogs and reject all those nice little chain emails.

Cupacke and Celebrate.
Get hyphy off this track.....

The Workout Plan

2007-12-14T00:42:00.000-05:00

Just kill it.
You would love her too...wouldn't you.

Studs. [insert motto here]

Stud 4 Stud Love

2007-12-14T00:16:00.000-05:00

A Definition by a "PrettyStud"

No one asked you to try and understand this end of the gender spectrum. Somewhere between the last guy you'll ever kiss and the last dress you'll ever wear. No one invited you into this private hell called decisions. The ultimate yes or no. This is where I live. My name is Identity.

ugh.

posers.

lmafo @ reject no reply

Cookin Beef

2007-12-14T00:03:00.000-05:00

Just Steppin Hard...

Check the bitch in you....[tee/hee]

ps. this was a year ago. don't get salty now

We Are Women.

2007-12-12T01:39:00.000-05:00

Like Angels....

I love being this kind of woman. It freaks people out.

It really does.

hold up, she fine too right. lol.
you guys.

Butch Tresvant

2007-12-03T00:59:00.000-05:00

Tresvant

(trey/vaunt)

adj.

1.to show consideration or sensitivity

2. emotional, emo

3. proper

n.

1. a gentelman

Size Matters

2007-12-01T13:39:00.000-05:00

What's a little me on top gon' hurt?
Maybe a little but
Pain is pleasure and pressure bust pipes
And you look like the 'I Like It Rough' type
We can crush tonight
Tell me what you like

- Best of Me [Jay-Z & Mya]

The worst word you can ever hear during sex is "Ouch". Now, don't get me twisted, there is some good pain to be had. Bites, passion marks, hair pulling, scratching, wrestling, and I've heard some women say they like when it's tight in the beginning and they work it out.

One can never really know if their size will be amicable to their lover. However the good thing about lesbian women is:

#1 We stay Hard and
#2 We can always find a size that will fit.

No one should ever suffer during sex. What am I talking about here ? Dick Size. Penis envy aside, y'all know I only write about this stuff cause I've gone through it. So while shopping for a smaller dick. I came across some cool information. I have reposted the links at the bottom.

Misconceptions or a Butch Finds her Strap

As I was coming into my butch identity, I had previously only done the following: tribidism [rubbing pussis], cunnilingus [eating pussi], and finger popping [ hands on/in the pussi].

I remember being at some woman's party with my then girlfriend and sitting around talking with other couples. Some of them were butch, some of them were femme and at the time all of them had 5-10 years of fucking under their respective belts. I was the baby of the group and oh boy was it about to show. So we're sitting around talking about sex and the subject of strap-on's comes up and each couple expresses her amazement at how good it feels. I, being super naive, said " I don't like anything between my woman and I, I don't like dildos they feel unnatural, Can you feel that shit anyway?"

Wow. If I had known I would have shut up, but how else was I gonna learn. I know now...or at least it's in my opinion that the best way to have a mutual earth moving orgasm is by using a strap and digging your woman out slow and wet. hehe.

So...back to the ouch. My favorite dildo in the entire world is the Doc Johnson Realistic Cock 8 inch. They are not indestructible, I have had one very strong and rhythmic partner break at least two of these. However, my reasons for loving this dildo are simple. It's looks like a big black dick and given my genetics and my personal aesthetics I just don't feel right drilling my lady with a dolphin, a fairy, or a tie dyed dildo. It would freak me out. They come in Black, Mulatto, and White boy [or Flesh as they call it].

What I didn't realize when I bought big daddy 8 inch was the diameter and dearest Caucus here is where we must pay attention. Not to the only length but to the diameter. Look at the difference between the 6 inch dildo diameter and the 8 inch dildo. This may be the difference between mmm right there daddy and ow stop.

[Please believe me, there are women who can take larger ones, this is just an example. ]

Curious about how deep a woman's vagina is anyway I did a little research online. Check out the in depth [pun intended] answer I borrowed from Columbia University's Health Services Q and A page:

Dear Alice,
I was wondering about the depth of the vagina. I've read statistics that say that the average vagina is only 3 to 4 inches deep. This seems way too small to me, since the average penis is considerably longer than that. Wouldn't that mean that most penises would crash into the cervix repeatedly during intercourse? Since this obviously doesn't happen, my question is this: does the vagina actually elongate during intercourse to accommodate the entire length of the average penis?

Dear Reader,

Yes, just as the vagina has the capacity to expand, allowing for the passage of a baby during childbirth, the vagina also has the ability to elongate during intercourse to accommodate a penis. As you mentioned, for some women, the depth from the vaginal opening to the tip of the cervix is 3 to 4 inches when they are not sexually aroused. Other women may have a vaginal depth of five to seven inches. Regardless, during arousal, blood flows to the genital area, and sexual excitement causes the upper two-thirds of the vagina to lengthen by forcing the cervix and uterus to ascend. The vagina also lubricates to help ease penetration.
Some people think that the vaginal canal is a continuously open space. However, this is a misperception. Think of the vaginal canal as if it were a balloon that is not filled with any air. The walls, which have the potential to expand and elongate, gently touch one another. When something is placed inside, they mold around the width and accommodate the length of a penis, tampon, finger(s), or sex toy.

Sometimes during penetration, a penis or other object inserted in a vagina does hit the cervix. This may be an indication that the woman is not physiologically aroused enough; when she is more aroused, her vagina will elongate and her cervix, the neck of the uterus, will lift up and move out of the way. Other times, contact with the cervix can happen if a penis is larger than average or if the thrusting is too deep. Communicating with a partner about the discomfort — "Ouch, that's a little too deep" — and changing sexual positions may be helpful.

Thanks Alice!

Here are the reposts/links I promised:

How to buy a Dildo.
How to use a Strap On.

Happy Crushing, Taggin, Baggin, Bangin, Hittin, Cutting, Sexing...et al

Please remember to practice safe sex. You don't want to have that hard conversation before sex disclosing your STD do you. Okay, I thought so.

BZ of the Day

2007-10-26T15:49:00.000-04:00

Some dude called her Asian.
Some dude called her Spanish.
Middle ground puts her at Filipino.
I have no idea...and I don't think I care....
Frky Frky Frky Frky Reggaeton Dame Reggeaton

G'd Up From the Feet Up

2007-10-26T01:01:00.000-04:00

Pratfalls.

2007-10-18T04:58:00.000-04:00

So I didn't.
don't know her at all.
I've only had the opportunity to see her twice.
the second time I was getting dissed.
but let me tell you how.

I'm not from here.
I just moved here.
Where I'm from.
The women pretty much tell you that they are interested.
Telepathetically, overtly, directly or the sexiest indirect flirt ever.
but you know. when you know.

here. Iunno....
So I have no idea where the restaurants are and I had a taste for sushi. real sushi.
A caught sight of a res, close to where I lived and hit them up after I got off.

Man, she had me at "May I Help You?"
Sis was Samoan...thick but short, you know.
Packaged. Straight black hair with eyes that made me forget her complexion.
we all have those days.
She had the most blank stare I'd ever seen.
Like someone making a conscious effort to forget something. you know?

I ordered some shrimp thing...and I think she hooked me up with extra.
i was super trying to play cool.
I walked out to my car with the biggest smile on my face.
determined to work myself up to asking her out.
Just as soon as I had a taste for sushi again.
Courage.
Courage
Courage.
3 macking days later. I returned.

I was going to ask her to the movies.
to dinner. For her #. Something.

I came in. And she was there.
again.
staring.
I asked for a menu and made small talk.
back and forth. asking about her jewlery.
diamond posts. and two small rings on both hands.
on her wrists. were tattoos.
reading from right to left.
"Thug Passion"

I wrote
on the paper I was given to place my order.
I wrote
on the back.

"I'm not really here for sushi, I'd like to ask you to the movies"

She picked it up, and read it. and dearest Caucus. Her smile was brilliant. Like when you open the refrigerator at 3:00 in the morning. It was nuclear and gave off it's own energy. As she held it. the smile and the note. My heart swole. My confidence grew. and like a flash flood. her brood returned. and I realized that she couldn't or wouldn't go out with me.

I asked her
[to my cousin's disgust..no, she wasn't there but she hates my lack of couth in this department]

"You don't like women, huh."
She said "I get that SH*T all the time."
"It's not sh*t, you are beautiful. people want to get to know you. I want to get to know you."
She smiled,
This time only half way.

The first girl in the video Cupid by 112 reminds me of her.

Cupid doesn't lie
But you won't know unless you give it a try

[my man Slim said. "I'd rather die before I lie to you"]

Give it a try.

Letters from the Caucus

2007-10-17T19:07:00.000-04:00

Coming to a park bench near you...

Letter from the Caucus...

Hola !

I just saw this listing [ed note. blog] as I scour the internet in search of businesses who cater to butch women's clothing needs... now that I finished with grad school and now need a suit where I can look good and queer and still keep my butch identity.

Keep me in your blog loop--Los Angeles is in da house!

Here is my response:

I know what you're talking bout with regard to suits and what not. As a matter of fact - I have a hard copy of TBC coming to a sidewalk bench near you. My dude does a blog called zapagringo...he's mad political and speaks to the indegenous zapatistas movement in chiapas...well he and i are cozining...putting out a dual publication of our blogs in hard copy.

The first topic thanks to your email is: clothing. I've been down the road before. seriously sweating what I was going to wear, to a interview, to a funeral, to a wedding. I like suits. but not ties. I got tig ass biddies. ya know. I'm exploring the bowtie as an option but no news yet.

#1. And I can't stress it enough the tailor is your best friend. No not some bougey custom italian mofo. I'm talking chinese lady at the dry cleaners. most cleaners do alterations.

#2. Shop on the Internet. The factory warehouse for online sales is going to have the exact length you need because they have volume.

Take a look at my horrendous experience at the hands of some dumb _____ at my j.o.

I'm trying to get masculine women to relate in a real way across the board.

If you've got Clothing Tips and Advice ?
Send an email to butch.caucus@gmail.com.

How to Suck Dyke D*ck

2007-10-16T02:27:00.000-04:00

check the pics that didn't make the post. #1. Baby Dyke & #2 Nun Uhn (NSFW)

First you,
and your partner must realize.

That it is a dildo.
IMO.
Warm it up.
A warm rag or immersion in warm water may do the trick.

If this is some indoors sexiness…
Shower.
Please shower.
There is something to be said about all day good pussy.
Or club bathroom drunken strokes.
But that’s another column.

Showers allow for the full freak flag for that bashful hygiene hype in you.
You wash fruit right.
You trust fruit right?

Aight so to the sucking…I can’t front. This woman Rachel Venning wrote a dope piece on sucking d*ck….
So without further biting. I’ll just list her 11 Tips on Sucking Dyke D*ck.

1. Use a realistic cock. Blowjobs are no time to surprise your sweetie with one of those lavender dolphin dildos from the eighties, cute though they are. For decent dick-sucking you need a sexy number with a clearly defined shaft and head, and veins and balls if possible. Some dildo recommendations: Johnny, Leo, Ultraskin.
[TBC ed. Note: I love the Realistic brand – comes in POSC colours]

2. When you strap on the dick, take a few moments of private time to really connect with it. Touch, it rub it, if you're packing enjoy the feel of it pressing against your pants. Make sure that the base of the cock is right where it feels the most solid connection to your body.

3. Think psychic dick. Although it's not a flesh-and-blood penis, your mind can have a hard-on that's as raging as anyone's. The dildo is the physical expression of a psychic reality, and that dick can feel fantastic, rubber or not.

4. Do it somewhere nasty. Something about cocksucking calls for dark alleys, bathroom stalls, and parked cars. Let the staging add to the sexiness.

5. Put on a good visual show. When you're sucking, remember that your playmate is getting off largely on imagination and the look of your hands, mouth, tongue and head. So make sure there are good sight lines and keep your actions visible.

6. Use your hand to push the base of the dick into your lover's cunt. The most physical sensation for the receiver is going to come from that one point of contact, so make it work. Rhythmically thrusting with your hand along the shaft into the base while working the head in and out of your mouth gives both a visual and a physical thrill. Another good reason to hang on to the base of the dildo is to control the depth of the thrusts.

7. If you can deep throat, do it. No matter what anyone's gender, that is always impressive and exciting.

8. Treat the dildo like a real penis--focus on the things that feel good to flesh and blood cocks: stroke the vein along the bottom, tongue the slit, gently tickle the balls.

9. Add condoms. If you like using condoms to keep the dildo clean, perhaps because it might go from mouth to cunt, to ass, and back again, it's a great opportunity to show off that safe sex 101 trick in which you roll the condom on with your mouth. Practice first. Try an unlubed condom like the Ria (now Trustex) or a flavored condom like the Kiss of Mint.

10. Feel the buzz. If you want more genital stimulation than the psychic thrill or the base of the dildo pushing into your vulva can provide, consider tucking a small bullet shaped vibrator between your harness and your clit. One harness, the Buzz Me Tender, has a built in pouch for just this purpose.

11. Options. Some girls won't mind if you slip some fingers in her pussy while you're blowing her. Others might find that upsets their psychic gender-bending state. So check in. A finger in the ass however, is a perfect complement to any blowjob.

Y'all F*cking and...

2007-09-18T15:16:00.001-04:00

Errebody know.

I don't know these two from women from sticks in the mud. However, as I was goo looking for a picture of Sarah Thomas first female ref to officiate a collegiate football game. I found these two. They played basketball for Lincoln University (HBCU) last year.

and that's the first thing I thought...

"They F*cking"

Purely hearsay mixed with a lil gaydar.
meh...back to the grind.

Oh and holla at your dude if you know some West Coast girls that ain't trippin.

Boo.

TBC = Throw Back Crush [of the Month]

2007-09-16T20:18:00.000-04:00

Do Do Do Do Do Ditty Do
Do Do Do Do Do Di Do Do
Do Do Do Do Do Do Do Do Do…..

Shanice Wilson

Born in Pittsburgh, Shanice, before her teen years relocated to Los Angeles with her mother and aunt who were interested in pursuing careers in the music industry. Shanice's showmanship was evident from an early age and this move was also to benefit her career. Shanice's talent gave her the opportunity to star in a KFC commercial with the legendary Ella Fitzgerald at age nine. Later, she was discovered by A&M Records at the age of eleven, and released her debut album, Discovery in 1987, which wasn't a huge pop hit, but did score R&B chart action, and the singer a 1987 Soul Train Award nomination for Best R&B/Urban Contemporary New Artist; she lost the award to R&B singer Miki Howard. Shanice went on to sign a record deal with Motown Records in 1991. Her 1991 album Inner Child which sold 1.1 million copies^{[citation needed]}, includes the popular hit single "I Love Your Smile", produced by Narada Michael Walden.

Read On....

She was like the Black Aimee Grant (Remember her? Baby , Baby I'm taken with the notion….?). Queen of New Jack R&B, a clearly talented singer with a vocal range in the whistle scales. Yet, for all of her skills and talent she never got the noteriaty of the Mary J's and the Keyshia Coles of the world. I blame electric drums, Teddy Riley and the New Jack corner her label painted her into. She married Flex and became Ms. Flex and we never heard another thing from her.

Top 3 Favorite Songs by Shanice

Turn Down the Lights
It's for You
I Love Your Smile

Super Straight Second Runner Up for Throwback Crush of the Month

Born to a gospel minister, she grew up singing in the church and was heavily influenced by the music of George Duke and Lee Ritenour. While in high school, she decided to make a career of singing. She was a successful beauty pageant contestant and model when, at age twenty-two, she was discovered by the MCA Records executive Louil Silas. Moore was signed to Silas' MCA-distributed imprint Silas Records.

From 1997 to 2000, she was married to actor Kadeem Hardison. Together, the couple had a daughter, Sophia Hardison. In January 2002, she married singer Kenny Lattimore.^[1] On April 10, 2003, their son Kenny was born.

Chante always come off as a straight devout woman. Her rhythms are always followed by blues. In It's Alright she sings to the man with whom she's having trouble with:

When teardrops fall,
running down, running down my face,
I need you, please hear me,
baby I need you here, beside me,
everyday I need to know, that you will not leave me,
promise me, tell me we can work it out,
Ooh baby without a doubt,
it will be alright

She's there. She's not going no where. In a nutshell – trouble don't last always. I like that about her music. It's not for the good times. It's for all times. It's not about the happy parts of love. It's about the real parts of life that make love happen, that make love stay.

Why the hell am I so idealistic?

I blame serial monogamy.

Top 4 Favorite Songs by Chante Moore

I Love You [duet with Keith Washington]
Bitter [aka the Kadeem Hardison diss track]
Straight Up [the 2step version is a monster]

It's Alright

Playlist: Honeymoon

2007-09-15T22:50:00.000-04:00

4 Eva.
Lil Mo feat Fabo

Can You Live With It?
Loving me for Life.

Baby, I'm at the point in my life
when I'm tired of playin games
I'm ready to settle down
I'm ready to buy a house
And I'm ready to change my last name
I'm ready to have some kids
Ready for the life to live
And all love has to give
I been your superwoman for so long
That I'll be your wife

[Fab]
Little M-O...

[Lil Mo]
Ohh
Now that love's taken over
I'm 100% sure that it's here to stay
I ain't got no issues standing in my way
I ain't goin nowhere
You ain't goin nowhere so...

Let's make it official
We ain't gettin no younger baby
And I'm ready to be with you
Together for always
To have and to hold through sickness and through health
Marriage will be crazy baby

Can you live with it, lovin me for life
To have and hold forever
Baby ride or die til death do us part
Let's make it last forever

Are you ready to be happy babe
For the rest of your life
Cause I wanna be your future, yeah
And let's start a family
Cause I ain't goin nowhere
And you ain't goin nowhere so let's make it official...

Let's make it official
We ain't gettin no younger baby
And I'm ready to be with you
Together for always
To have and to hold through sickness and through health
Marriage will be crazy baby

Can you live with it, lovin me for life
To have and hold forever
Baby ride or die til death do us part
Let's make it last forever

I'm ready to walk down that aisle in all white
And dedicate my life to you (yeah, yeah)
And live together happily ever after all

[Fab]
All I been thinkin bout is us
Slidin from weddings with bands on
Headin to San Juan, gettin our tan on
Girl, you must be forgettin your man's long
Most tuxes I have trouble gettin the pants on
And I know things run through your head when your man's gone
I come home have you sayin (Oh Boy) better than Cam'ron
We upsettin they plans on
Gettin they chance on
Gettin they hands on F-A-B-O

[Lil' Mo]
Can you live with it, lovin me for life
To have and hold forever
Baby ride or die til death do us part
Let's make it last forever

Can you live with it, lovin me for life
To have and hold forever
Baby ride or die til death do us part
Let's make it last forever

Make it last forever
And ever and ever
Can you live with it, lovin me for life...

Damn.

2007-09-15T21:04:00.000-04:00

Frenchie [or should I say Butchie] and Eva.

Damn. Damn.
Damn. Damn. Damn. Damn.
Damn. Damn. Damn. Damn. Damn. Damn. Damn.
[another one....] Damn!

Get your dream on.

We Won't Let You Just Kill Us...

2007-08-28T13:39:00.000-04:00

We TRU soldiers, and we don't die
We keep rollin, n-n-nah-nah-nah

RIP

Playlist: Honeymoon

2007-08-25T07:11:00.000-04:00

So the Best Hits of Shalamar was somehow placed ever so gingerly on my desk and for at least 7 hours I have been having wilding dramatic thoughts about commitment, Jody Wately, Howard Hewitt, and performing this song at a wedding.

The song is very "romantical". It's one of those lyrically creative masterpieces that loosely translates to: We made it. We doing the damn thing. Get Ready. Tonight. I'ma make love to my wife. husband. partner. soul missive. etc.
That's some good sex right 'chere.

When you love someone it's natural, not demanding
And that's one thing I'm proud to say I found in you
I'm so glad we reached an understanding
Now I know my heart is safe with you, hoo...
So now my love to you, baby, I surrender

Get ready tonight
Gonna make this a night to remember
Get ready (Oh, baby) tonight
Gonna make this a night to remember

Celebrations and my heart could stay united
And there's nothing in this world to come between me and you
We're together and it keeps me so excited
To think of what the power of love can do, ooh...
And I'm filled with a love that's, oh, so tender

Get ready [Baby] tonight [Girl]
I'm gonna make this a night to remember
Get ready [Get ready] tonight
I'm gonna make this a night to remember

Make this a night to remember

Get ready tonight
Gonna make this a night to remember
Get ready [Get ready] tonight
Gonna make this a night to remember

Get ready (Baby) tonight (Darlin')
Gonna make this a night to remember
Get ready (Darlin') tonight (Baby)
Gonna make this a night to remember

This night you won't forget
Gonna make this a night to remember
‘Cause your love I won't regret
Gonna make this a night to remember

Get ready [Baby] tonight (Darlin')
Gonna make this a night to remember
Get ready [It won't be like the past] tonight (I will make it last)
Gonna make this a night to remember

Tonight
Make this a night to remember
Tonight
Make this a night to remember

Let's make a toast to those who helped make this occasion
They turn their back on love and that's what drove you straight to me
Now to you I make a lasting dedication
I'll show you all that love and life can be, hoo...
And each day that I live I will deliver

Get ready (This night you won't forget) tonight
Gonna make this a night to remember
Get ready (‘Cause your love I won't regret) tonight
Gonna make this a night to remember

Night to Remember by Shalamar

The video on the other hand...not so much sexy time. It looks like Jody's trying not to be as intimate as the song would suggest with Howard. The 3rd dude is trying to figure out how to actively participate in a duet in a band he's a part of. He shoulda just faked playing a keytar.

There you go.

Disco Bonus

Last Night

2007-08-24T05:06:00.000-04:00

Scandal Shock and Outrage.
Some of you have asked why I refer to some women as bitches.
My grandma taught me that word and when to use it.
Don't talk about my grandma.

Last Night or the Social Escapades of a Single Butch.

So I'm out. Chilling. Scoping the scene. I've watched a lot of women come in and fill the club. I met a good friend of one ex and two of her friends. I'm broke + sober, but I still managed good spirits despite the clubs' dj clearly having a problem finding where he put his "house" records.

[When] I spied with my two eyes a fine fine woman.
She had the mouth [i like], she had the eyebrow arch [i like], she was buster brown, wearing camoflauge and a wife beater [befitting], body for days and I know it sounds dumb but she looked smart.

What took the cake and gave me my motivation to check her, was the fact that she was going crazy dancing to Glamourous Life by Sheila E plus the woman could move.

I get it up to walk over and say something to her and I swear on everything that is holy. I get no more than 5 feet from her and a dude [bio boy] passes in front of her.

She recognizes him and taps him and says "who you here with?"

My dude goes into something that looks like both dismissal and denial. She continues her questioning between Raspberry Beret and some Bachata music and It almost looks like he's going to get away with the blow off.

As he starts to walk away she grabs him by his chain, pulls him around and asks.
"WHO ARE YOU HERE WITH ?!"

:: I'm watching the whole thing trying to figure out who needs help the most ::

2 face mushings , 1 slap, popped bling and a shirt jerk later...he decides (with good reason) to leave.

Super stimualted by her but cautious and a bit discouraged I follow her to the door and ask.
"Was that your dude?"

She responded " No that was my Ex Husband. Drama"

Exactly what I don't need.

I can't make this stuff up.

Chiggitty Check Yourself

FACE

2007-08-23T03:49:00.000-04:00

...and the femmes just stared.

...Excuse, Me Sir

2007-08-23T03:18:00.000-04:00

This fellow's film is in the works.
Check her myspace for hints and clues.

M.I.A. Drops Jewels.

2007-08-23T02:25:00.000-04:00

Men say: I want to be with you but I don’t want to get married.
M.I.A. says: I think both sides see the benefits of that. It’s less pressure. It’s difficult, though, because I spent 10 years in Sri Lanka growing up, and our values are really old school. I’m very, very back to basics, an old-school, traditional person; but I know that’s not the case in the West. Believing in marriage is really amazing to achieve now.

Men say: We don’t need to go to the club together every time.
M.I.A. says: Women also don’t want to go to the club with their man every night. I’m sure men just want to go and stare at other women for a bit, and women do the same thing. So you can go and look, as long as you’re not shagging anyone in the toilet.

Men say: I can’t be with a woman who makes more money than me.
M.I.A. says: The thing that pops into my head is Jay-Z and Beyoncé. I was on a plane with Mr. Vegas and that’s what he talked about, like, “Why would Beyoncé go out with Jay-Z? She should go out and find someone nice.” And I said, “I’m gonna marry a taxi driver.” But then he was like, “He’s never going to understand your lifestyle.”

Men say: I should confront anyone who disrespects my woman on the street.
M.I.A. says: I handle my own battles—to me, it’s nothing. That kind of shit doesn’t work. If someone says something to you, you say something back. You don’t need your boyfriend to deal with it.

complex.

Kelis, Will See You Now.

2007-08-23T02:03:00.000-04:00

Men Say: You don’t need to know how many women I’ve slept with.
Kelis says: That’s OK I guess, as long as I’m not made to look stupid, like all the girls are still around and you all have this little secret without me. If they’re out of your life and you did it and it’s over, I don’t care.

Men say: Spending three months’ salary on an engagement ring is obscene!
Kelis says: In every other culture there’s something that has to be given, whether it’s camels or cows or sheep or whatever. In our culture, it’s the ring. It’s supposed to be an investment, a show of love, your promise to take care of this person, to be faithful. So I think three months’ salary is the bare minimum—it can be even more. We deserve that.

Men say: Watching porn is not cheating.
Kelis says: If a guy just does it for fun once in a while or uses it to interact with his girl, that’s cool. Do I like it? I don’t love it, but I don’t really care. Every guy has porn, but anything in excess is a problem—like if you have to have it, you should think about that. That’s revolting.

Men say: I don’t have to say “I love you” all the time—my actions speak for me.
Kelis says: That annoys the hell out of me. I feel like you should just say it. Men are not communicative enough. Sometimes I do agree that actions speak louder than words, but I think your words are also important in a relationship, just as a little pick-me-up.

Men say: I have sexual fantasies that my woman just wouldn’t understand.
Kelis says: If a man really desires something sexually, he should be able to bring it up in a way that’s not gonna scare the crap out of her but make her want to try it, for him. I don’t think it’s fair for him to say, “She won’t get it, so I’m gonna go get it somewhere else.” That’s foul, because you didn’t even give her a chance.

borrowed with love from Complex.

Crave

2007-08-22T02:36:00.000-04:00

The jones indeed. The pure feeling. The know.

You know.

When you know. The person that you most desire.

Will be yours.

I cried when Aaliyah died.

Damn. Is that a haiku ?

[ I ] Never wanted to "have" Meshell Ndge’ocello as much as I wanted to "be" her.

The consummate object of the affections of all black lesbians.

Naw, but for real.

I want to step to Corriane Bailey Rae.

Like what up. Miss.

Nice tunes.

It's Poppin.

2007-07-30T15:12:00.000-04:00

Pure Hilarity.

What you know bout me ?

You Gotta Have a Heart to Break It.

2007-07-05T05:04:00.000-04:00

[….developing….]

Game: Did I sweat you? God, I hope I didn’t sweat you. I wanted to know you. The deeper smarter better cuter version of yourself. Of who you know yourself to be. I mean I respected, yo. Never did I infringe, or even say. I thought all in all of that you could me see as a friend. Never did I touch or even admit.

Lia: Admit what?

Game: [laughs and half states/maybe even with sarcasm Game's imagination is so wide and huge that it includes Lia in everything.] That the sun sets and rises in your smile. It freely sets itself, the sun does, outside of my window. That I was crushing. That when I saw you smile I knew then, that I wanted to make you happy. Happy, so you smiled like that.

[Lia smiles]

Lia: So. [beat] So what do you want from me ?

Game: [to self] for us to have never had this conversation…sike no. [hunches shoulders] I just want to be your friend. But I guess at one point I wanted more than that. I’d hope that you thought about me the way I thought about you. Knowing you, you probably would have said something by now. I just want to let that go. I’m sorry if I made things weird between us. I was just so damn sure of myself. Ideally [beat] I’d like to marry for love.

[Lia in almost a whisper]

Lia: Me too.

Game: Let me walk you out.

[Game motions to the door, unlocks and gingerly opens it ]

[Game manages to reciprocatingly hug Lia goodbye, in an “A” frame embrace.]

Game: [in a low mumble] Aight homie.

It has a final sounding refrain, it doesn’t echo, or even suggest that they will speak later on if every again. Game is embarrassed. Lia feels bad and but doesn’t say anything more

[Lia offers a limp wave as Game closes the door. ]

[Game’s swagger drops, as she turns around. She had really wanted to know, love and understand Lia. A lump is forming into her throat, as she returns to the couch. she mumbles]

Game: icecold.

[as she walks from the door she repeats the same word: icecold, In a panic as if saying the words could dissolve the growing angst she feels]

Game: icecold.

[She takes a towel from the back of the couch, and places it over her head. Bringing the corners of the towel to the hollows of her eyes as if to dry tears. She screams into the towel. Her voice full of raw emotion. In frustration.]

Game: ICECOLD.

[Game lets the towel fall loosely around her head, and hunches her shoulders in exhaustion]

Game: [low and horse] ice cold.

[cue music: Sade “Love is Stronger than Pride” ]

Sitting here wasting my time
Would be like
Waiting for the sun to rise
It's all too clear things come and go
Sitting here waiting for you
Would be like waiting for winter It's gonna be cold
There may even Be snow

[Lights though fading, fade up and down gradually up in down mimicking respiration until the final fade to black]

[ music: love is stronger than pride looped from “Sitting…through to repetitive guitar solo…]

Fade to Black.
End Scene
For More Excerpts

Craigslist Post of the Month

2007-05-17T15:41:00.000-04:00

To which I responded:

Nasty
Howard
Chick.

That should be a category in and of itself.
My god. I'm dumb over your post. Just straight up got.
Boo. on the facts.
the butch factor that is.

I'm in music and of no interest to you with regard to your post.
However, as far as fans go.

baby
don't worry.
you know that.
you got me.

Fantastic.

Have a good one.

--
The Butch Caucus
butch.caucus@gmail
http://thebutchcaucus.blogspot.com/

(i love her.)

The Butch Caucus asks...

2007-05-17T13:04:00.000-04:00

How would you pull a stripper?

By pull, I mean get at, get the number of, spike the curiosity, spark the romantic interest of ..... Informal. the ability to attract; drawing power.

The Butch Caucus asks: How would you pull a stripper?

by stripper I mean, a woman who dances, for money.
–noun

1.	a person who strips.

2.	a thing that strips, as an appliance or machine for stripping.

3.	Also called ecdysiast, exotic dancer, stripteaser. a person who performs a striptease.

I do not mean sex worker.
That's really none of my business, until it is my business. Feel me?

TBC asks, How would you pull a stripper?

I'm seriously asking.

My cousin hates to go to strip clubs with me. I just can't seem to whip out my loot and throw it at a caged bird. I will watch and drink. I do not make it rain. However, for a feat of athleticism and choreographed seduction my hands start to warm, but that's more of a tip. I go into every situation looking for the phenomenal experience. The baddest bitch in there. I like to be shown favor. To know that I either came with, or will leave with the baddest woman present.

This is not the best mindset for a stripclub.

Nevertheless, there are women that I can't make myself pay. They are emo magnified and illuminated. The BEST of all that is carnally provocative. And because she dances to Key Largo covers by billy holiday, etta james, and sarah vaughn. because she finds irony in a Kelis song, A smiths song, an outkast song.

I think she's smart.

and I think I could enjoy the irony of being with a woman like her.

I want to know real shit, like her real name.
And her real number.

And just then, Prince comes on.

I ain't got no money
I ain't like those other guys U hang around
It's kinda funny
But they always seem 2 let U down
And I get discouraged
Cuz I never see U anymore
And I need your love baby, yeah
That's all I'm living 4, yeah
I didn't wanna pressure U, baby
But all I ever wanted 2 do...

I wanna be your lover
I wanna be the only one that makes U come... runnin'!
I wanna be your lover
I wanna turn U on, turn U out
All night long, make U shout "Oh lover, yeah!"
I wanna be the only one U come 4

Shout out to Ooohzi.

Technical Definations

2007-05-12T14:24:00.000-04:00

C / B's (celly breakers)
*or people you can't speak to.

So you're having a conversation. There may even be beef. You're talking it out. You think you are coming to some sort of agreement. Suddenly, the conversation escalates. You're freaking out. Everything in you wants to end the conversation. It's not right but it's okay. You gotta go or you are going to say things that can never be apologized away. Blasphemous vulgarities come to mind. You want to go you need to go. You slam the phone. Something has got to give. You're not stupid, you can't replace your computer, but something has got to break in order to take this edge off.

The-call-has-got-to-end.
Quickly.
Slam !

It's done. You've thrown, punted, kicked, tossed, crunched, slammed your cellphone. The crack in the phone is better than a crack in a tv screen, in a window, better than a dent in a car, a bruised hand or ego. FUCK! Now, you are shouting your most honest feelings to no one in particular, pulling your hair, screaming into pillows,taking a breathers, being angry. Like Mic Geronimo would say Shit's Real. Being misunderstood is one of the most frustrating feelings one can have: How could you? Why would you? Didn't you think to? Why would you think that I? What can we do when we are hitting the conversational wall.

Shit, man I don't know you tell me.

Cell phone's are getting expensive.

In response to : An Open Letter

2007-05-08T00:18:00.000-04:00

i have somethin to say about your 'i love women' speech

loving me, committing to me, being monogomous with me, does not mean
you have to stop loving women
women are amazing amazing amazing women are magical watery inspiring
women are falling down rabbit holes women are oceans and nighttime

loving women does not have to be about consuming women loving women
does not have to be about titties n ass loving women does not have to
be about dick n pussy loving women does not have to be about cumming
loving women can be about sunshine and rain - bringing the shine out
in women, letting women know they can trust you to cry

this is a challenge to you - you talk about being an elder, you talk
about your dreams and where you want to get to
but your actions don't match that talk and you say it'll take time -
maybe years - and you're not ready yet - to heal - because you don't
wanna become a different person, you don't wanna lose your essence
but the time is now bu - you put it out there that you want a
marriage, you want to start building family, creating community - i'm
here, i'm down, i'm your girl - the time is now

if you want this, if you want to build family, you can't be scattering
your energy, you have to be focused, and you have to trust me - you
have to be transparent with me, and trust that i will hold you.
you and i need to seriously build a foundation, build trust, if we
want to make dreams real, and this thing that's been happening between
us has been real challenging, but the time is now to transform it or
to let it go so it doesn't run us both down

i promise its not gonna be that hard to transform your understanding
of women - i promise there is plenty to be floored by even when you're
not imagining ass jiggling while you pound her. i promise if you go
deeper, you will not regret letting go of 'having tight game' because
you will be straight divinity, and everyone will see that comin outta
you, and the universe will conspire to lift you up

I'm So F*cking Tired of This Photo

2007-05-06T14:38:00.000-04:00

You've seen it everywhere. Semi creative dykes posting on message boards, on craigslist, in chat rooms. This picture is over. Retire it. I get it ! You like kissing girls. Unfortunately for you. You look nothing like this.

ugh.

An Open Letter to the One

2007-05-04T13:33:00.000-04:00

To Whom This Concerns:

It’s not like I don’t want to be with you, or that I can’t. It’s that after years of abuse and neglect. I don’t trust myself to love without a self imposed safety net. To release all inhibitions and believe in love. The love I defined as an idealist, after witnessing love for the first few times. The love that moves you swiftly through time and space. I have been consumed by its flame many times before and believe the lessons to learn were completed. I can now admit to myself and to you that I was burned. That I am suspicious of good and of you. I must project images of self doubt, of inadequacy on to you in order to somehow create a mismatch. A reason, a scapegoat for not being present, for wanting more time, for waiting, for not being ready.

I’ve played myself. I decided after way too many mistakes that I what I wanted most was choice and freedom. Freedom to decide not to work on me. To dead anyone who was getting to close. I can be who I want to whomever I want. And never shall the two meet.

I am ready to trust that we come from the same place and that we want the same things. That your struggle is my struggle and vice versa. That we will build our wealth as a family. A strong black family. That you will bear my children and my name. And I will exchange my very being, soul, body, and mind to empower our union. These things will go understood.

I want to be safe. I want you to be safe, to not feel threatened. I don’t even know how to say it. Or how to be it. But I want you. I want to claim you as my partner. I believe we are friends. I accept you for who you are and as we are getting to know each other I can see that you aren’t guessing at this person. You are complexity defined but there is a reasoning. I can see the AA BB AA patterns as I learn your rhythms. I trust your science. And believe not only that you can but that you do love me.

I want to tell you that you are thoughtful, funny, sophisticated, appreciative, supportive, creative, and many other things I haven’t figured out how to describe.

I do. I really do. Want you to be my……

The Funk Dr. Spock is In.

2007-03-28T14:48:00.000-04:00

First things first, I’m not the chief butch in charge. I’m spitting game as it was spit to me. I was hipped to the G and I’ve created this space for the science. This is for my cohorts, my fellow studs, AGs, baby butches and grown tomboys alike.

So back to the session at hand. I was talking to a homie of mine. She’s new to the game and had a question…

Q: What is the most fruitful way to get with a girl dats never been with a girl? hehe and A couple of my perspectives have dudes, but would be down.

Should i do the shit?

A: Hell no. Hell no. Um Hell no. but maybe you like drama. so in that case go ahead.

A cheat. she's got no morality. fuck that. that means if it's her with her back against the wall...she'd sell you out. "she seduced me..." and make no claim for her feelings.
Can you make it just about the bone. or are you gonna be all emo and try to “wife” her?
If you can help it never be someone's first. Can you say awkward and strange sex. Then you gotta "help" them figure out whether or not they are gay. It's my policy to meet single women outside of the closet. I know it's me and not just "experimentation".

It’s a slippery slope indeed but if you are bored out of your mind sure, but there will be drama. You will get hurt. Chill with the starter chicks & respect that dude even though his lady don't. You'll want someone to do the same for you one day. Fuck a ho. Don't be one.

Now to the pimping...is there any thing in it for you beside sex. If not then it's not worth it.

Whatcha think? What's your opinion. Hit me up.

My Mellow My Man

2007-03-14T15:30:00.000-04:00

Look what I found on You Tube.
This baby queen is working it out.

There is an interesting commentary at the bottom of the video.
The struggle continues. He's really cute.
I wish him the freedom and spirit of childhood.

Maybe he'll grow up to work it like this....

Gots to Be More Careful.

2007-03-12T17:42:00.000-04:00

I can forgive the past.
but I can never forget it.

I'm making way for a new wave of queer success.
Who didn't know I was queer?

The dream is to:

Have a play.
Have a movie.
Have a VJ position on LOGO.
Have production credits everywhere.
Get married. [I need to stop]
Have some kinky sex with a tranny girl from brasil.

[They need to stop hating ! I'm butch. I'm not a man but giiiiiiiiiiiirl. ]

The "caught out" there factor is coming to get me. What do you get when you have great sex and perfect intimacy.
Nothing if it's two separate women. Im starting to read Ethical Slut. I don't know how to feel about that really. Personally, I get caught up in the hype, in the New York, Philly, London, LA of things. The confusion of too many influences of fly women around you.

In other news. I'm in another You Tube Video.

Here's the backstory. It was a birthday + Anniversary + Purim celebration. My homeboy Rj and his lady Ora have been in a relationship for 10 years. Like 16 yrs til now. So he wanted to do a thing for her. If by thing I mean a fully choreographed and original musical production.

Check my "box" in the last minute.

"If I woulda knew...

2006-12-25T01:58:00.000-05:00

...the girl next door would've been you."

Keisha Knight Pullam aka 'Rudy" of the Cosby Show
and Letoya Luckett an O.G. member of Destiny's Child.

I am in love with
Strong Black Woman Dem.

Baby I'm a Star

2006-12-04T18:06:00.000-05:00

This summer I had the amazing opportunity to support one of my homies in her vision of successful. You might know of the band Brooklyn Funk Essentials or maybe you know her by name Hanifah Walidah. I'm humbled by being tapped by another fly progressive butch woman for a lead in her national syndicated video Make a Move, now appearing on LOGO network television. What !

THE VIDEO
One spring weekend, in a brownstone in Brooklyn, she staged something that has never been seen before. This video would be a first of its kind in that it depicts gay women of color in a celebratory, complex and witty manner. The video opens with 8mm footage of a woman’s party, in the mid-50’s, at a house in Bed-Stuy Brooklyn. Fast forward 50 years… we find ourselves at that same house and the party continues… but with different women. The video shoot featured an all queer, predominantly women and trans cast and crew and includes performances by underground and chart topping ‘out’ women artists of color. Some of which include house music recording artist (#3 on the Billboard dance charts) Deepa Soul, Comedian Gloria Bigelow, Tika Milan who will be featured on MTV’s upcoming reality series focusing on entertainment journalists and Zina Camblin, Broadway bound playwright and prodigy of Whoopi Goldberg.

Playing Myself: An Excerpt

2006-12-03T23:36:00.000-05:00

This is an excerpt from a play I'm writing called "Playing Myself" and truth be told it is partly autobiographical in many ways. The play itself is bold and brazen in the way that I know people can be. The character Game is made of many people I call my friends and family.

ACT 1

[Sound: Keziah Jones : Afrosurrealismfortheladies]

Scene One: Game Is Deep

[Video Montage of Cragslist ads, Chat Room signs, Personal Ads, W4W is the intro sequence to sound. Montage stops on pic of “deja” The pic should be a personal pic, of the “deja” at the beach revealing without being crass]

[Game is standing and Belly is sitting in her “apt” There is a computer on a desk]

[Game takes out a deck of cards and flicks one at the pic of deja on the computer monitor. She begins the monologue matter of factly]

I would like to watch you sleeping,
which may not happen.
I would like to watch you,
sleeping. I would like to sleep
with you, to enter
your sleep as its smooth dark wave
slides over my head

and walk with you through that lucent
wavering forest of bluegreen leaves
with its watery sun & three moons
towards the cave where you must descend,
towards your worst fear
I would like to give you the silver
branch, the small white flower, the one
word that will protect you
from the grief at the center
of your dream, from the grief
at the center. I would like to follow
you up the long stairway
again & become
the boat that would row you back
carefully, a flame
in two cupped hands
to where your body lies
beside me, and you enter
it as easily as breathing in

I would like to be the air
that inhabits you for a moment
only. I would like to be that unnoticed
& that necessary.

[Beat]

Game: What Nigga What?

[throwing the email down and strutting ]

Belly: that’s for you?

[nodding clearly feeling it]

Game: naw, That’s for her.

Belly: I know right. Did she hit you back?

Game: Yup, she sent me more pics.

Belly: where’s this one from

[picking up the printed out email]

Game: Blackplanet

[busy online]

Belly: from from

[Looking towards game]

Game: NC State, Tarheel, Smart Girl. She can appreciate that.

[matter a factly ]

Belly: No stupid, the poem.

[shaking head]

Game: oh. That’s Margaret atwood.

[quickly]

Belly: Damn, G. You get deep on bitches.

Game: [shaking a knowing finger at belly] I get deep on sistas I fuck bitches.

[End scene]

Summary: Playing Myself is a play about a young masculine woman nicknamed Game for her tenacity and prowess with the same sex. The play documents her pursuit and promiscuity in search of true love. This quest takes her into the world of online dating, personal ads, chat rooms and phone ad’s. Only through her best friend belly Can her motives be clearly seen and understood. Everything else is just game. Belly and Game’s exchanges result in deeper understanding of each other’s masculine gender, sexuality, and beg the answer to many other subjects on sex, relationships, and health.

I'm back with...

2006-12-03T19:32:00.000-05:00

THE NEXT EPISODE.

(Mark Morrison looks like the bastard child of Grace Jones. Akon straight stole his style btw)

Yes I did.

It indeed is the Return of the Mack. Thank you for all of your correspondence. I believe in what I’m doing here. I believe that even if this gets read once by someone I don’t know it’s getting the job done. What is the job. Building community for Butch, Stud, Dom, masculine type women. Addressing the issues of gender, isolation, and health to name a few. I'm going to start active recruitment first by having real conversations with other masculine women. Again if you are interested in getting up with The Butch Caucus let me know what's on your mind. Send me an email.

I know I’ve been out the loop for a minute.

Here’s what I’ve been getting into...

I am attempting to author a play about how relationships are built and destroyed. It's called "Playing Myself" excerpts soon come.
I’ve also been developing a new hobby: cruising Craigslist for postings deliberately soliciting the company of a butch/boi/dom/stud woman.

Here are some of the more interesting ones.

Not that I don’t consider myself “sentual”, I just don’t know what that means. She sounds hopeful enough. “Someone that brings a smile to my face by the thought of her, someone that makes me laugh, someone I can get to know.” What's behind that sunset stock photo? You'd be surprised. This is Craigslist.

I like this one. She’s pretty straight up. She even mentions a love of chocolate. Nice. I know what to bring along. Then it goes all WNBA. Slim Tall Butch. Next.

I have expounded at length the dangers of the Corny butch. The science of the CRAZY B*TCH is soon to follow.

Here are some of my own non comprehensive classifications:

The overtly obvious crazy bitch.
The undercover or secret psycho.
The “seemed like a nice girl” girl.

Exhibit A: The Overtly Obvious.

Women like this scare the hell outta me. Why, because you can already see the insanity. The woman goes on to post again and again a total of 10 times in 3 months. Why do you think women aren't responding. Hit me back let me know. I'll play stupid.

It’s always important that a woman, any woman, know how to spell. "TREID OF GAMES" the title reads. She goes on to use "treid" several times in her posting. I have used context clues and simple deduction to conclude that she’s trying to spell tired. Dyslexia aside. This isn’t the only faux paux in this post. Its gets super wrong. Like incorrect. To top it off she’s continues to avoid the numerous hints that a.) no one is interested and b.) folks are a little scared. I'm not sure if she's received any responses. She prolly has. I contend that there is someone for everyone. Everyone. Then again, I think that some folks have been through everyone. EVERYONE. She’s posted at least 5 times, this month which is indicative of lack of response.

After reading through many similarly awkward postings I feel like I should do a clinic or a workshop, one of the many topics would be grammar and creative writing, but then again. I'm not interested. I'm just "treid".

I'm back y'all. Keeping checking back. 'Cause Ima be getting up. *sb*

People, don’t you know ? Don't You Know it's About Time ?

2006-03-02T15:20:00.001-05:00

First off I would like to say thanks for all the love you all have been showing me. via emails and random props. I’m sorry I’ve been off the groove. I’m playing basketball without that basketball if you catch my drift.

Speaking of least likely comebacks. Where’s Ya kid K at son?. I haven’t seen her on Celebrity Fat Club or Surreal Life. Pump Up the Jam….I mean I hated it It wouldn’t not go off the radio. Black radio. Crossover radio. Grocery stores. I saw the video on The Video Music Box or Friday Night Videos. It certainly wasn’t cable. I didn’t have cable. Radio was showing the UK sound mad love in the 90’s. Snap ! Imagination! M/A/R/R/S, Enigma even Lisa Stansfield was getting love on American radio.

Technotroic brought you and apparently your moms….
Pump up the Jam and Move This.

Ya kid Kamosi was a cross colours reppin, Au Coton sporting, Doc Martin stomping mc. I didn’t like her song but she was major. ::wait:: I’m bugging. I sung her song and left the dial alone. It became corny when something better was on. I know the damn words okay :: She was doing international numbers untraditionally as a female hip house mc. It didn’t hurt that she did an entire video with models….Just her and some models. That was quite pimpish if I don’t say so myself.

Andro (butch) was the way to be the female MC. Sex had not started to sell yet. Not like that, not in hip hop. Salt and Pepa, Yo Yo and Oaktown 357 all came out out either sporty or hard. I mean how HARD are shiny patent leather platform shoes. The formal contrasts were hammer pants and Polka dots anyone ? Ladybug? The Boss ? West Side !!!

It was then in all of this I felt most realized. Most apart of hip hop. I felt comfortable dressing like that with my growing hat fetish and preppy styles. [ Hip Hop has always given us a case for flossing. Kangols, Sherlings, anything Boyz II Men wore was the flavor. More on that in “Chill out Preppy Dykes” or “ Hey, You’re not Popping your Collar”] It wasn't always the music. Sometimes it was the attitude.

.: Make My Day :.

Ya Kid K was born Manuela Barbara Moasco Kamosi in Zaire, 1973. By the time she was 11, Kamosi had moved to Belgium. From there she traveled to Chicago, arriving in the Windy City just in time for the mid-'80s underground house music boom. Kamosi ingratiated herself into the scene, eventually taking the rap name Ya Kid K. After moving back to Antwerp, Ya Kid K started rapping with the local Fresh Beat Productions crew. (FBP were well known as one of the initial groups in the "FritHop" scene, which was what rapping in Flemish came to be known as.) At the same time, would-be techno producer and transplanted American Jo Bogaert (real name: Thomas de Quincy) was shopping his demo of music that fused house rhythms with hip-hop vocals and attitude. It found its way to Ya Kid K and Welshman MC Eric (last name: Martin), and the two quickly united with Bogaert to form Technotronic.

Technotronic's single "Pump up the Jam" was an international smash in 1989. Featuring Ya Kid's laconic, somewhat androgynous vocals over an insistent 4/4 beat and pulsating synths, the song was the embodiment of Bogaert's hip-house formula. But in a classic case of record-business tomfoolery, Ya Kid K was almost shut out of stardom. Despite K's lead rap on "Pump up the Jam," Bogaert had hired South African model Felly to appear on the cover of Technotronic's debut, as well as in the "Pump up the Jam" video, lip-synching raps in a language she did not speak. Controversy ensued, and both Ya Kid K and MC Eric were featured in the videos for the sound-alike follow-up singles "Get Up! (Before the Night Is Over") and "Rockin' Over the Beat." K went on to contribute a rap to Belgian rap crew Hi Tek 3's 1990 hit "Spin That Wheel."

She also did what any newly minted celebrity would do: She contributed a song to the soundtrack for Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles II. "Awesome" appeared in August of 1991 and led up to the release of her solo debut. In 1992, at the world-weary age of 19, Ya Kid K issued One World Nation. Led by the Technotronic cast-off single "Move This," the album received a brief boost when the song was used in a wide-ranging campaign for Revlon cosmetics.

Do you know where she is?
Me, Neither.
Two words for you kids: Publishing Royalties

Shake that Body for Me.

Who You Calling a Bitch ?

2006-01-07T14:19:00.000-05:00

Yo Latifah we can do this….. Okay so. I never really had beef with Latifah. I admire her. She was like a butch role model for me. No. She never came out or anything like that. However, she was harder than Mariah. It was the face of 90's hip hop. Pimping oneself hadn't become a matter of flesh yet. The hood opinion of itself was that we weren't one to be taken advantage of and if you tried. You might get your ass kicked.

No, for real.

In 1989 it was on. Vicariously my burgeoning masculine identity grew through Latifah (and MC Lyte more on that later). She was tall. Brown. Thick. And smart. She was the epitome of feminist black nationalism for the hip hop generation. She had backup dancers. The Safari Sisters. Fuck being a tomboy if I could just be a girl/woman like her it wouldn’t even matter. I would have respect. That’s what she had. Respect.

I learned to embrace my history through the stories 90’s hip hop was telling I was a backpacker and Queen Latifah was the first lady of conscious rap. I rocked red, black and green everyday. You couldn’t front on nationalism styles. That in itself was disrespectful. I brought the brown to my white ass school everyday and taught them words like dashiki and huto jambo.

Her first album All Hail the Queen was exactly what I needed. Hard. Smart. and to the point. I would also like to point out that the first song I ever heard in life was - Come into My House. I'll repeat that: THE FIRST HOUSE SONG I EVER HEARD WAS - COME INTO MY HOUSE. The Queen in Ms. Latifah was becoming more and more evident with each hook of "Give Me Body, Give Me Body" I loved the sound. I loved the range she could do no wrong.

Ms. Owens moved into acting – this seemed to be the one place that either made or broke hip hop artist. You either came off corny, wack, or the audience was like “Damn, Let me find out they can act” Enter Set it Off. What is my blog called ? Dammit I said what is it called. I’m not even gonna speak on the role. But it was good. Why, cause she wasn’t acting.

Somewhere. Somehow things got ugly. She killed it when asked to sing. But now they wanted a show. A show of ass. Of flesh. The parades of yes men saying "you’re beautiful in that gown". A GOWN. Queen Latifah. Is not a gown wearer. Sure Sure. Dana Owens is not ugly. But she just isn’t the gown sort. More like Prada suits. (See Diane Keaton & Ellen Degeneres - Oprah is the Gown wearer) The yes men, turn Yes’m when the minstrel show asked her to be, what ? Funny. There’s nothing like black buffoonery, let’s put you with Steve Martin he’s good at prat falls and accidents….we need you to make your eyes biiiiiiiiig. Real biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig.

Mister Charley? Mister Charley?

The shuck soon turned to jive which brings me to the reason I’m posting. I was minding my business watching the fake lesbians fuck on Showtime. When I caught a preview of Queen’s latest: Last Holiday. I have suffered with her success, wanting for her the freedom of pride. I have seen her play a madam, a cop, a nanny, & lots of a loud ass black stereotypes. But the this, this was last straw. She’s playing meek, shy, and doomed. And to top it off – she kisses LL. It’s Ladies Love Cool J not Dykes Love Cool J. (He has nice lips I'll admit. dick sucking lips they're called)

What the Fuck! Isn’t that some incestual hip hop shit. I mean if anyone knows what’s up with La it’d be a veteran like LL.

But let me think…hey maybe he’s gay (maybe it is DL Cool J). I’d kiss a fag too. Do you La. Do You.

Corny Negroes Part II

2005-12-17T10:32:00.000-05:00

The Triple B.

The trifecta.

You can be one.

You can be intimidated by one.
You can wish you were one.

You can be working your way up to that status.

The Triple B

The Bigger Better Butch.

The next cat. Probably the cat who watched the corny butch eff up and is now courting your ex lady or crush using the reverse technique.

The Triple B.

Probably lives alone or has her own sense of space.
Can get to work on time. With or Without a wake up call from you.
Misses you when you’re gone.
Misses you when she’s gone.
Knows when to leave.
Knows when to stay.
Probably has at least a dozen right answers.
Has a story tell. From the past.
Has no recent drama that would call them at 4am, crying.
Is an independent.
Has a plan and is sticking to it.
Has more than 2 friends.

The personalities vary. Cause anybody can do it. There isn't a perfect way to be the perfect match. If she's feeling you...you're in there. She's smiling, calling back, texting first, hitting you with emails. She likes you. Get into it. not lost in it.

Some of you are wondering why Jay-Z is up here. Well. In many respects I think that negroe is ICECOLD. His thinking and lyrics have gotten me through many a rough patch. You can see the development of his emotions in regard to how he relates to women.

I'll give you MARCY to HOLLYWOOD

" All engulfed into honeys the pussy was tight
if she threw the pussy right I got mushy like
Damn baby I love you take all my cash
"You ain't got to lie Jay," you already gettin' the ass

She loved that I was a thug it turned her on
soon as I got soft it turned her off
I got relaxed put my feet up, starting dissin' my friends
.... that's when the ceiling fell in "

In Hey Papi.

It's seems that young Hov has grown a bit. Maybe embarrassed that his friends think he'll flip on him if any new jawn comes around. He takes the field and be comes a player. However, this isn't a bad thing for the formally Ultra Needy Butch. The more one chills with different personalities the more versatile your experience (game) will be in the future. You'll get your attention fix from more women than you can handle. And you'll start figuring out what YOU want and not what you can be for someone else.

" I was the worse
I used to switch chicks every day
Had niggas mad for real like "I wish he was gay" (or "wish she was straight ")
Cause they knew sooner or later hun was gettin' with Jay
Just a matter of time she was gettin' with Jay

I'll have your chick in the summer tropics sippin' on 'zae
Spittin' up in the Pacifics smoking spliffs in the shade
She used to love ya, but she feeling different today
You used to smother her, look at your honey slippin' away
Consorting with hustlers, niggas that be giving her space
She said she feel free when she's around me
I'm letting her do her and in turn she's doing me
She on the phone with her friends like  how cool is he? "


If you want a Bad B*tch....you'd better be a Bad Butch.

Stay Focused.....

Corny Negroes.

2005-12-13T16:22:00.000-05:00

Now understanding that there is someone for everyone. Big, Small and Stuntin alike. There is a perfect match for everyone. I believe that fa sho.

But.

Corny Negroes.

I mean we all know them. Extra N*ggas. Just so full of themselves that they are caricatures of themselves. Huge baggy jeans, flamboyant gestures, loud at the movies for no reason. Oh, wait what about the unbalanced couple. You know the one with one really good looking person and one so-so or not so attractive person. It’s all ego. There’s one half of that relationship that relied on some smooth game to get them to the winners circle. This is where the personality really counts. That’s when you start hearing things like “ she’s a good person” and “ she makes me laugh”. Ya feel me?

But.

There is a place that every butch visits. Cute, so-so looks, and fly macks alike. It’s called the awkward and corny place. It can be the result of youth or inexperience. Most often it's the result of insecurity. It’s when you smother a woman with chilvalry. When you call too often, When you write too much. When you haven’t spent more than two days apart. When you start to need her. You have become corny. She’ll say something like this

“I need some space” it really means “ bitch go home”

Whatever you do. Go. Leave. Be Out. Get on Craiglist or Downelink and get yourself a distraction. Go out with your homies.

But DO NOT, under any circumstances:

call her
call her after 10pm (even if before you could later)
call her more than twice a day
send her flowers (repeatedly – once is fine player)
show up to her job
call her friends or her mom
text her repeatedly
cry when speaking to her about your relationship (only during the space time, if she let's you back bawl your ass off.)
drive by her school,house, job,massage parlor hoping to see her
stand out her window
frequent spots that she frequents - let her have the union square cafe - space Entiendes?! (understand?!)

If you do. Consider it over. A give yourself the CBA – Corny Butch Award ‘Cause what you’ve done homie is straight stalked. Any sane woman will dead you down. Cause that ish is crazy. Part of the TBC code of conduct will suggest interventions on the behalf of the needy butch.

In these cases Butch Friends or Caring Witnesses:

Invite your friend to dinner, the movies, your girls house.
Go out to the booty club
Be available for the reasoning late night phone call.
Smoke your homie out.
Listen to Get Money (“F*ck B*tches – Get Money”)

Do whatever you can to save your homies pride cause if you allow the stalk. Your homies name is mud. Femme’s talk and you won’t get a quality chick until the local college’s freshman class comes in. Everyone will know you are a relationship fraud and you will learn the term pariah.

1. A social outcast: “Shortly Tom came upon the juvenile pariah of the village, Huckleberry Finn, son of the town drunkard” (Mark Twain).
2. An Untouchable.

It’s about being secure ya know. Feeling yourself just enough to only need your opinion to balance yourself. Not relying on an outside equal entity to tip your scales. We have to be complete before we enter these relationships. Initially we should be able to take it or leave it. Down the road we should be able to talk it out. But for real. Have other shit to do. What were you doing before her. And what will you being doing after her. Insecurity can destroy some of the tightest friendships, don’t let it leave you looking crazy.

:LATE:

Next Blog. The Triple B.

This post - is dedicated to a good friend of mine. Who is finally. OVER IT.

how it became

2005-11-10T22:16:00.000-05:00

I started this cause I needed this. Cause I didn't have anything like this when I was coming out. and I kinda felt like we were against ourselves. I didn't dig it. so I decided when I was honest enough with myself. I would do what I could to make sure lil baby butches didn't have to grow up wishing they were something different. something easier. something that didn't make everyone ask me about, me and men and me and dresses, and me and marriage, it's weird feeling like you aren't a boy, but you aren't a girl, you want to be an old woman oneday, after you become a man. huh?

it's a mix of wanting respect as a masculine woman. it's not about heavy lifting or who gets the most pussy. but men seem to make it that way. women have the strength of perspective when it comes to emotional analysis. translated. as a woman we feel shit differently. but how does a butch woman feel. with the added adopted masculine dogma of not wanting to feel weak. we paint ourselves into these corners. when confronted with the discrepancy. and we still can't figure out why it is the way it is. it just is.

we are true enigmas. there are still very masculine women who. don't call themselves butch. who don't date women. who just are. There are lots of you out there who can't come to grips with the two spirits fighting for recognition. Fighting for respect. Fighting for love. It's fucked up but the need for the dichtomous relationship between butch and femme isn't strong because it's based on opposition. on differences. it's strong because it's based on acceptance. a person. a woman (for those butch lesbians out there) who. loves you for the person you are. who dosen't wish you'd wear this. talk this way. fuck this way. cum this way. act this way. be. you know truly be. someone you aren't. Because the someone you are is exactly. Exactly what they want.

it's like buying an irregular fit. and it fits. perfectly.

I love ya'll like the brothers I never had. I love y'all like the sisters I'll never have. It's real and it's for you. youngins and old heads alike. I have a lot to learn. and a lot to unlearn.

So to this end. What sort of doctrines of honor should a very different brotherhood have.

Should we talk about women. and the drama that comes up when we feel our relationship is threatened.

Should we talk about conflict, gossip, chismosa, ego and how we are going to behave differently in order to perserve the bonds of the butch caucus.

Should we talk about bitches that choose others and the butches that would have a disloyal woman.

Should we talk about the repercussions of disloyalty. From the perspective of the wronged and the wrong doer. What does forgiveness look like? Sacrifice. What is penance. Who decides that.

I'd like the counsel of the butch caucus to help mediate problems.

Still thinking on this stuff. Leave me your suggestions. Please. And if you want to be a part of The Butch Caucus send me your info.

Name:
Email:
AIM Screen Name:
City: Heritage:
Age:
Martial Stats:
Celebrity Soul Mate:
Butch Level: Describe your masculinity in your words.
Kind of Music you dig:

I'm making a directory. These cats will be notified when there are major questions need to be answered. These cats will move the conversation. These cats will force the issue.

1. Respect yourself.

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