Size Matters

What's a little me on top gon' hurt?
Maybe a little but
Pain is pleasure and pressure bust pipes
And you look like the 'I Like It Rough' type
We can crush tonight
Tell me what you like

- Best of Me [Jay-Z & Mya]

The worst word you can ever hear during sex is "Ouch". Now, don't get me twisted, there is some good pain to be had. Bites, passion marks, hair pulling, scratching, wrestling, and I've heard some women say they like when it's tight in the beginning and they work it out.

One can never really know if their size will be amicable to their lover. However the good thing about lesbian women is:

#1 We stay Hard and
#2 We can always find a size that will fit.

No one should ever suffer during sex. What am I talking about here ? Dick Size. Penis envy aside, y'all know I only write about this stuff cause I've gone through it. So while shopping for a smaller dick. I came across some cool information. I have reposted the links at the bottom.



Misconceptions or a Butch Finds her Strap

As I was coming into my butch identity, I had previously only done the following: tribidism [rubbing pussis], cunnilingus [eating pussi], and finger popping [ hands on/in the pussi].


I remember being at some woman's party with my then girlfriend and sitting around talking with other couples. Some of them were butch, some of them were femme and at the time all of them had 5-10 years of fucking under their respective belts. I was the baby of the group and oh boy was it about to show. So we're sitting around talking about sex and the subject of strap-on's comes up and each couple expresses her amazement at how good it feels. I, being super naive, said " I don't like anything between my woman and I, I don't like dildos they feel unnatural, Can you feel that shit anyway?"


Wow. If I had known I would have shut up, but how else was I gonna learn. I know now...or at least it's in my opinion that the best way to have a mutual earth moving orgasm is by using a strap and digging your woman out slow and wet. hehe.

So...back to the ouch. My favorite dildo in the entire world is the Doc Johnson Realistic Cock 8 inch. They are not indestructible, I have had one very strong and rhythmic partner break at least two of these. However, my reasons for loving this dildo are simple. It's looks like a big black dick and given my genetics and my personal aesthetics I just don't feel right drilling my lady with a dolphin, a fairy, or a tie dyed dildo. It would freak me out. They come in Black, Mulatto, and White boy [or Flesh as they call it].

What I didn't realize when I bought big daddy 8 inch was the diameter and dearest Caucus here is where we must pay attention. Not to the only length but to the diameter. Look at the difference between the 6 inch dildo diameter and the 8 inch dildo. This may be the difference between mmm right there daddy and ow stop.

[Please believe me, there are women who can take larger ones, this is just an example. ]

Curious about how deep a woman's vagina is anyway I did a little research online. Check out the in depth [pun intended] answer I borrowed from Columbia University's Health Services Q and A page:

Dear Alice,

I was wondering about the depth of the vagina. I've read statistics that say that the average vagina is only 3 to 4 inches deep. This seems way too small to me, since the average penis is considerably longer than that. Wouldn't that mean that most penises would crash into the cervix repeatedly during intercourse? Since this obviously doesn't happen, my question is this: does the vagina actually elongate during intercourse to accommodate the entire length of the average penis?

Dear Reader,

Yes, just as the vagina has the capacity to expand, allowing for the passage of a baby during childbirth, the vagina also has the ability to elongate during intercourse to accommodate a penis. As you mentioned, for some women, the depth from the vaginal opening to the tip of the cervix is 3 to 4 inches when they are not sexually aroused. Other women may have a vaginal depth of five to seven inches. Regardless, during arousal, blood flows to the genital area, and sexual excitement causes the upper two-thirds of the vagina to lengthen by forcing the cervix and uterus to ascend. The vagina also lubricates to help ease penetration.
Some people think that the vaginal canal is a continuously open space. However, this is a misperception. Think of the vaginal canal as if it were a balloon that is not filled with any air. The walls, which have the potential to expand and elongate, gently touch one another. When something is placed inside, they mold around the width and accommodate the length of a penis, tampon, finger(s), or sex toy.

Sometimes during penetration, a penis or other object inserted in a vagina does hit the cervix. This may be an indication that the woman is not physiologically aroused enough; when she is more aroused, her vagina will elongate and her cervix, the neck of the uterus, will lift up and move out of the way. Other times, contact with the cervix can happen if a penis is larger than average or if the thrusting is too deep. Communicating with a partner about the discomfort — "Ouch, that's a little too deep" — and changing sexual positions may be helpful.

Thanks Alice!

Here are the reposts/links I promised:

How to buy a Dildo.
How to use a Strap On.

Happy Crushing, Taggin, Baggin, Bangin, Hittin, Cutting, Sexing...et al

Please remember to practice safe sex. You don't want to have that hard conversation before sex disclosing your STD do you. Okay, I thought so.